To feel a bit out of the social loop since dc3 arrived?

[Molehillmountain]

I guess that's to be expected. But I find day to day existence all consuming at the moment and feel I can't hold lucid and logical let alone interesting conversations. All fine with longstanding friends but I feel out of it in the playground. Dd2 is bf and unpredictable in the evenings, plus not sleeping well at night, so I struggle to make nights with the other mums. And at beg and end of school day I'm either rushing off, jiggling a baby or trying to keep track of my toddler. I was pg all last year and I feel as if I'll be this ex pg mad incoherent woman who people avoid soon. Actually, written down that all seems trivial tbh, but I feel as if pg and baby rearing removes my personality.

I feel this way after one child so YANBU. Are there other things you could be involved in at easier times of day? (If there is one).

how youre feeling is perfectly normal!!

You'll get there. I'm a bit jealous. I'd have loved 3 children!

Mixed I feel the same with just one DC too!

I try to organise social stuff in the afternoons as I can barely function after 7pm.

I could have written this word for word. Im on DC2 8 months.

With DC1 at this age he was a terrible sleeper but would always sleep 7pm-11pm before it went tits up so I was able to get out sometimes and see friends.

Not this time. Ds wakes any where between 1 and 5 times between 6.30pm and 10.30pm. Absolutely no chance of getting out.

But it doesnt last forever, have weekend, day time gatherings.

Thanks! glad not alone. If it weren't for feeling I should be socialising at school I think I'd just leave it and see longer standing friends. Will dd's social life survive a gibbering accidentally anti social mother? Hope so. I quite like being useless really-makes being with a baby a pleasure as we're on the same level! And last baby so don't want to spend time I could be with her on stuff that I won't care about in the long run.