to think this is unfair

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Ds's school were offerring a free after school sports club with a limited number of places. These were to be offered on a 1st come 1st served manner. There was a huge take up and many children were disappointed.
Today I found out that one of the places went to the ds of someone who worked in the school office.
AIBU to be miffed by this?

Depends. Were they quick to enrol? You'll probably never know. I wouldn't dwell on it.

Depends whether or not the DS of the lady in the office goes to the school. If yes then YABU, but if not then YANBU. If he's at the school then he's just another kid, it just so happens he has a parent on the staff.

so you're thinking that because the parent works in the office, that must be why that child got a place....nice
Course, it couldn't possibly just be that their name was pulled out randomly from a hat
bitter and resentful... not nice traits imo

How were the children selected? Was it out of a hat? Her son may have had same chances as all the others and just got lucky. Either that or nepotism was at play. You can't prove it so I wouldn't bother getting too het up about it.

YABU. The child shouldn't be forbidden from having a chance to take part in such activities because his parent works at the school. That would be unfair.

It depends how things go in the future, at dd's school if you get a place on something like that it makes you lower priority for the next thing that comes up.

I see why you would be miffed but it's probably just good luck on the child's part, I definitely wouldn't go making your feelings known at the school unless you want them to think you are a loon. Would it be worth asking the school if they could run this club on an extra night as well to let some extra children get a chance?

yabu

OP said it was "first come first served", I can see why she's chosen.
I am mixed, there should be some kind of perks working at the school. And it's only one child. But first come-first served is a lousy way of choosing for limited places, names out of a hat on a stated date is fairer.

YABU- my mother was a teacher and I spent the whole of primary school never getting picked to do anything good because it would look like favouritism -in case someone would complain - it pissed me right off.

YABU

What would be unfair would be if the child wasn't allowed to join the club just because his mum worked in the school. If it's first come first served and his name got in early it's still fair, as it still complies with the first come first served policy.

I guess you're bitter because your DS didn't get in?

As far as I know everyone returned the forms on same day. (immediately after letter issued). If all the forms handed in on that day were pulled out of a hat than fair enough.

Like others have said depends if names were drawn out of a hat or whether person in office saw the letter before it went put to other pupils and quickly put their child's name down, which would be unfair

Surely though if they had access to the letter early that puts them at an unfair advantage.

So basically what you want is for this child to be at a disadvantage simply because his mum works in school? That's nice!

No I don't want them to be disadvantaged. If all the forms were received were put in a hat and her ds's name came out than fine. However, if she had access to the form before other parents or was given priority because she worked at the school than surely that's unfair. I appreciate I am speculating.

Without asking and looking like a jealous cow you'll never know anyway so why let it bother you?

With no evidence whatsoever you've decided that this child got their place through preferential treatment. Nice.

The way your complain it comes across as that's exactly what you want or you wouldn't be complaining about it!

So you don't really know whether it's unfair, you're just speculating.

Then YABU I'm afraid, and the child should not be put at a disadvantage because of their parent's situation (one of my friends at school was in albertswearingen's situation and it was horrible, completely unjust).

No, Of course I wouldn't want her to be disadvanted. I do sincerely hope that all the forms were put in a hat and that every child had a fair chance.
However, based on previous experience I can't help but have doubts.

Never mind.

Then stew over those doubts, let them fester and convince yourself that you right in your odd suspicions and glare at said child and parent for all eternity.

Because other than getting the hell over this that's your only other option.

That would be terrible Cotes. I had a friend who's mum was a teacher and she always made a point of never working in her children's school for that reason.