to not feel comfortable about DS having a sleepover?

[Syd35]

DS is 4 and I have only ever left him a couple of times overnight and that has been with family members.

The mum of one of his nursery friends has asked if he could stay overnight with her DS. They seem a very nice family, but we have only got together outside of nursery about 4 times. On each occassion the two boys are guaranteed to end up falling out and we end up having to cut the play date. short.

I know children often behave better when their parents are not around but guess I'm not totally comfortable with DS staying overnight with people we barely know, DH seems to think it's fine though.

A child-free night does sound appealing but I think I would be fretting all night and not sleep properly. Am I being overly cautious or should I let him go?

I think 4 is fine for a sleepover with someone the child knows VERY well. The situation the OP describes is more appropriate for a 10 year old who can ring home themselves if there is a problem.

My DD is 7½ and I wouldn't let her go for a sleepover yet so 4 is far to young for me.

7? why bon earth not, if she wants to??

7 is very different from 4 yrs. I would only let them do it at 4 yrs if it was a very close friend of the family and DC wanted to do it. By 7yrs it is down to whether the DC wants to do it. What about Brownie camp?

just say you feel he is too young for sleep overs at the moment - maybe when he is 7?

But actually a sleep over aged 4 would be fine if you knew them very very very well, the kids got on and you trusted the family 100%. However you don't seem to be close at all - so no, don't send him

Im probably one of the worlds most laid back and least overprotective parents - but I wouldnt let my 4 year old have a sleepover - he wouldnt really have a concept of what this involves at this age, I would wait a bit, a few years anyway. Plus similar to your worries my DS is still in pullups at night.

My 9 year old on the other hand has been on them for the past few years and Ive also had the hassle pleasure of having his friends to stay to.

Sootica interested in your reasons for not letting your 7 year old go on a sleepover to.

duckdogers glad to know my DS isn't the only 4 year old still in pull-ups at night as it seems most of his peers are dry at night now. Guess it will happen when he is ready!