to still care what people think of me when I'm in my 30s?

[workshy]

bit of background

I manage a team of 30 people, have worked my way up from 'grass roots' working at several sites within the organisation -been at my current site for 6 months but the same grade for nearly 3 years

I have made mistakes with people management over the years but I have always admitted them, done my best to put them right and learnt from them, and I am now used as a mentor for up and coming supervisors and my senior management have given me some really positive feedback -I'm confident in my own performance

so why is it that when I hear a rumour going round that says 'watch out for workshy, I'll bet she's got a right bitch streak in her!' I get really upset?
why do I care???

it's eating up at me, I can't address it as it would be painfully obvious who told me but I really don't want people to have this opinion of me -I consider myself to be firm but fair (and my team generally give me this feedback too), I don't make snap decisions, I have got a few people on performance management at the moment but that is because they needed to be, not because I find it fun!

arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh

Whatever your age it is normal to feel hurt or upset when you hear negative things about yourself, especially when what you hear seems unfair. I knwo it's hard but do try to ignore it, if you are doing the right things then just carry on, the truth will come out in the end.

YANBU. To not care what your colleagues think of you would make you unusual, to say the least.

Stick to whatever you are doing, though. The person who told you this 'rumour' has an agenda - any idea what it might be?

Bit confused, are they accusing you of being workshy (i.e. lazy) or a tough bitch?

Whichever, YANBU to be affected by the harsh words but YABU to let it get to you. Sounds like you're proud of your own achievements and rightly so, and that those saying these things are either jealous or have perceived scores to settle.

The person that told you seems to respect you in your role so hold onto that.

It's hard for others to see someone who learns from their mistakes and achieves. That's not your fault though. Enjoy your success and be happy. Ignore the comments....

westcounrtywife
workshy is my rather ironic user name
no one has ever accused me of actually being workshy lol

Ha ha... Good, it sounded odd.

Sod them then, sounds like jealousy. Take it as a compliment, they obviously agree that you are something to be jealous of! Whoop whoop whoop!

If you didn't care what they thought then you'd be one of those managers. You know what I mean!

lol I have worked for one of those managers and I swore I would never be one!

think I'm just a bit worn out at the minute and I let it get to me more than it should