to not want to brag on facebook about my DS's achievements?

[garliclover]

I just wonder why my otherwise reasonable and lovely friends find it necessary to do this. It's never straightforward, either: the bragging is always veiled. For instance: "thank you for the 9am lie-in, kids!" (from the mother of a toddler and a 2-month-old), or "life is much easier now that my son can tell me which fruit he wants" (at 10 months? wtf?), or "sitting up at 5 months! walking next...". I like to think of myself as a fairly relaxed mother with no particular hang-ups about milestones, but this sort of thing gives me the hang-ups!

3 different lots of my friends put photos of their children asleep over the weekend with captions such as "this makes it all worth while"

This will now turn into a big anti FB rant though. sits back

I love FB but people's statuses about hours of sleep/amount of sick on clothes/number of pooey nappies bores me shitless. It's tragic-I have no idea who they think is going to be remotely interested. YANBU

oh i have a friend with alot of children so its alot of baby pictures she has 3 under 2s at the moment and 1 aww my princess picture is the same as the rest , and oh my gawguss girlie slept all night shes so clever , another friend seems obsessed with her eldest adult son and his life , he doesnt live at home he works away , and its X this X that , and no menton of her other children , I spose its their fb they can put what they like on it but sometimes JEEZ give it a rest ,

i don't mind people sharing there children milestones....better than food threads, slagging off ex and the people who always seem to moan about life

Why is it bragging? Isn't it just them sharing what their kids are doing?

I find limiting my FB friend list to people I'm actually interested in solves these sorts of problems.

I totally get where you are coming from here which is why I hide the threads of the school mums that do it on my FB. Periodically I will post amusing pics of my kids or comments that are funny ( like last week when my youngest who is 2 announced that " I was doing his head in" .) But the one upmanship that goes on when it comes to how many merit points little johnny got that week or how proud mummy is that little boris went up 2 reading levels really is nauseating. I also hate the blow by blow accounts of peoples social lives that then go on to tag everyone they met that day. Maybe I'm a jealous old bitch because I don't have any friends but hey ho my FB my preference. Just hide them if you don't like them, that way they are still your "friends" but you don't have to read what they write.

Not unreasonable. If you're proud of little Johnny, tell him. He's not on Facebook, so the only reason to post that stuff is to brag. I hate it when parents wish their children Happy Birthday on Facebook too. Can't they just say it to the actual child?!

Not really bragging is it though? Just information.

If you don't like the status, block/hide it.

Just take screenshots and send them on to www.stfuparentsblog.com/

It is kinda bragging a little isnt it , saying mummy is so proud of little johnny for going up a reading group , what should be said is my son is so clever and i just wanted you all to know , but we can hide them if it really annoys us ,

I have to admit I quite like it. Most of my friends who put their status updates on their are good friends - often friends who have moved around a lot and so I don't get to see them as much as I would like. Some of them are my various God/Guide children and so I have a genuine interest in their lives and I personally like to see how they are getting on and growing up. I think its okay, so long as it is 'balanced' - so that you get the "Really proud of Tarquin today, who read alone for the first time" as well as the "Am going to scream in a minute if little Tarquin does not end his tantrum soon". Its only those who always put on the 'life is perfect' facade all the time that I don't like, because well it is just so false.

I think the other thing is that I only have genuine friends on my facebook, so I am actually interested in their children / updates.