My parents have been divorced since I was a small child, both are remarried. Over the years (especially since we had DD, 4.5) my parents have put aside their differences and even have meals out together (with their respective partners). This year we all had Christmas together at my mum's house. I guess that what i am trying to say here is that I don't think there are any 'sour grapes' between them.
My Dad has very kindly offered to take DP, DD and I to Eurodisney in the Spring for three days. We are really looking forward to it. Dad is comfortably off, we are not so well off and this is not something we would have spent our own money on. However, we are delighted that we will all be having this holiday together.
For the past couple of years we have treated DD to a daytrip to Legoland. We use tesco vouchers which really reduces the cost of the trip. Each time we have gone we have had a brilliant time (have to admit I love it too). This year mum said she would love to come too.
However, now that Dad has offered the disney land trip Mum is telling me we shouldn't go to Legoland as "its not good to spoil DD". Her comments have really hurt me for some reason. I think I am probably hyper-sensitive to the 'spoiled' comments as we are unable to have any further children and so are sometimes subject to the daft "only children are more spoilt" comments.
I am happy with our family of three, but am aware that DD may be more likely to be spoiled than a child from a larger family. I am trying to make sure that this doesn't happen- so mums comments and refusal to join us to legoland have really hurt my feelings.
On the other hand maybe I have my blinkers on and cannot see that a trip to eurodisney and a trip to legoland would be overindulging my PFB?
So would it be spoiling her to allow both trips to happen?