to think I am going to need a holiday after my holiday!

[mynderbyngofyd]

first trip abroad with pfb - he will be 21 months old and it will be hot.

Will it be hard? I feel like I will need eyes in the back of my head, will be the only sober one some of the time (ie I will feel like I can't get drunk and let loose while others can) and will just feel like I am at home doing the usual only with extra work on top.

Am I being stupid?

Is there a creche service where you are going?

no. Will be staying with family and in self-catering.
Not keen on leaving pfb with anyone so I can get drunk.
I am happy with not being drunk but just thinking 'will I be the one on high alert' while everyone else is relaxing.

I am worrying too much probably but just wondered what other people's experience is of going on holiday with a curious toddler. I thought AIBU would get the most replies, apologies to the AIBU police.

I have namechanged btw.

If you are going to a resort where there are other families, you will be fine. You will see how they cope and you will be able to enjoy yourself too.

We took granddaughter when she was that age, and by 8pm at night she was fast asleep in her pushchair and we were eating a meal and having a few drinks. There is no harm in having a few drinks, and no need to get hammered anyway.

If you are there with family then even easier as you can hopefully leave your child with them one evening and go off for a bit of time on your own.

You seem to be fixated on the drink.

Yes, it won't be like holidays of previous times, but I'm sure you'll be able to feel like you've had a change, and if there's other people going, won't you be able to share the childcare?

So YABalittlebitU.

Yeah I am a bit, the drink thing. Just from past experience I know there will be drinking. Not a resort. PFB does not sleep through yet (year old) and still in with me. Not keen on leaving pfb with anyone else. I know I am sounding like a right stick in the mud but pfb doesn't know the family well. It's just me, my DH, pfb and me going.

I am just convincing myself it will be hard work and I will be worrying all the time. I am not really a worrier when in familiar surroundings but when you factor in sun, water, traffic and so on I just wonder how you manage to keep them safe and stay relaxed and in holiday mode at the same time? just go with the flow?

So two adults and one baby?! It'll be fine

You do sound over anxious though, perhaps you should speak to your GP?

The best bet is just accepting that holidays with children are completly different to holidays before children. No reason you still can't have fun though just doing things slightly different.

It sounds to me as if it is a larger group and a slightly drink orientated holiday though? That side may need rethinking

Oh just a normal family holiday. I wouldn't worry then and would discuss who drinks when with your husband then

oh dear, I sound like some neurotic idiot :(
I don't think I need a GP, I just need to feel like I won't be the only one keeping an eye out for spills and burns and so on. Time to relax a bit I suppose.

He's nearly 2 - stop worrying about all the things that could happen to him and start concentrating on all the lovely experiences he'll have on his first hot holiday :)

I am worrying about me really. Will I be the one keeping an eye on things the whole time. Suppose I should get used to the fact that as a mum I probably will be for the rest of my life. I find it tiring and no fun

but obviously I have no idea what an almost 2 year old is like and if they are hard work or not. Presumably he will be into his running off stage?

or will it be fairly easy?

Isn't your dh helpful then?
Tbh we just go on self catering cottage holidays in the uk
Much easier

Sounds like you need to reconsider how you do holidays. No point going away if things aren't going to be fun for all.

Why won't your DH be helping? You need to chill out a bit.

With a 21-month-old in a hot climate - I presume there will be a swimming pool around? - in a self catering with family, you basically need to set up a schedule of who is going to be watching him when.

That way you share the responsibility and all get to relax and have a drink when off-duty.

Not sure what pfb means - Partner´s First Born?

Just don´t take on the role of "nanny".....

I was in the tropics with my then 20-month-old, took enough books to read during his afternoon naps.

Have a great time.

"Suppose I should get used to the fact that as a mum I probably will be for the rest of my life. I find it tiring and no fun sad"

Nah, not for the rest of your life, only about the next 18 years...

Tiring? yes. Fun? Only what you make it. (am an LP).

Do you find you are normally the one to keep an eye on DC and your DH doesn't help in this regard?

I would think if you're staying with family they will also want to spend time with DC and give you a break here and there.

My DS is also 21 months and we are quite picky about travelling now, I don't see the point in doing any trips that will just be stressful.

It will be work, but it won't be that bad, and he won't be little forever. You get to relax on holiday when he is older.

i always found that being on holiday with young children, you were basically doing what you usually did, but under less convenient circumstances! You have to change your concept of 'holiday' while they are young ...!