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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be thoroughly pissed off on DS's behalf?

7 replies

DontCallMeFrothyDragon · 08/01/2012 20:52

Today was DS's 4th birthday. It seems he's slipped the mind of his paternal family. He's had a card and cheque from grandparents, but nothing from his father, despite protests that he'd put £20 into my account so I could get DS's present on his behalf. Today, he hasn't had so much as a phone call from anyone on his father's side of the family to wish him a happy Birthday. We had the same issue Christmas Day, in which we wouldn't have spoken to any of them, had it not been for me calling, on the basis they might be busy. Since we visited them in April, the grandparents haven't phoned once, not even to let me know that DS's great grandmother and two aunts had passed away. I feel like DS has dropped to nothing more than a name on their Christmas and birthday card list. AIBU to be so bitter and angry about this? :(

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fuzzpig · 08/01/2012 20:55

Horrible people :( YANBU

Two words for you though - please hold on to them.

THEIR LOSS.

youarekidding · 08/01/2012 20:58

I feel your pain on behalf of your DS. Admittedly DS now gets something for birthdays and christmas, and a call on these days it's the only contact he really has.

If it helps DS isn't really bothered about it anymore (he's 7) and actually refers to his father by his name - not even dad anymore. I have realised that by me backing off DS has seen his fathers family for what they are. Sad

DontCallMeFrothyDragon · 08/01/2012 20:58

But it's ds's loss, too. he'll start asking soon enough, if not about grandparents, he'll ask about his dad at least. I'm fuming at them. a phone call once in a while... especially on his birthday... it's not too much to expect, is it? :(

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fuzzpig · 08/01/2012 21:12

I know, DCMFD :( sorry I sounded flippant - I just mean, in the long run, your DS will realise how useless they are and that he is better off without them. Because he is. They OTOH will not have the joy that you have, of knowing your lovely boy, because they are idiots.

So sorry it's like this :(

AKMD · 08/01/2012 21:14

That is so sad. YANBU at all.

OlympicEater · 08/01/2012 21:45

They are shit. They don't deserve him. YANBU

roughtyping · 08/01/2012 21:54

YANBU. I have the same problems with my DS's father's family. They love to seem involved and send money/cards and ask me to take LO to see them. There is no reason for them not to come here, they moved away whereas I have stayed where I always have been. Grrr. Sorry. It's awful feeling so rubbish on behalf of your LO. :(

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