I am away From dh and ds at the moment. Dh will be alone with ds, 7 months, for 10 days. When he comes back its a Wednesday so he will have ti continue to look after ds until the weekend as I am at work. He is a sahd.
When I was on mat leave, dh was amazing!! He did night feeds when I couldn't cope and most mornings got up with ds before he went to work so I could have a little extra sleep. He came home from work (pre stopping as sahd) as early as possible to help with ds and regularly took ds out aline on weekends to give me a break. and he did loads of housework etc so I didn't have to. So I feel when he gets back he needs a break.
A friend, also with a small baby, told me I was being ridiculous and started very aggressively going on about how everyone always thinks men are so marvellous if they look after their kids for five minutes etc. eventually I got annoyed and basically told her to stop it. The problem is that her dh hasn't got up in the night a single time, he looks after their ds but the moment he gets difficult he gives her back to my friend etc. but that's not my problem.
So was I but harsh to basically tell her that Im sorry her husband doesn't do as much as mine but that I want to make looking after ds as easy for him as he made it for me. I did not appreciate the lecture, nor the refusal to believe my dh isn't like hers.