What do you think?

[Lesmacarons]

New user here. Looking for experienced internet users to give an opinion. Hope you don't mind.

Hope do I cope with this? Am I being OTT?

My expartner posts pictures of my daughter and myself and writes information about us on the net. I have asked him not to, but this seems to go nowhere as he says he understands and then does it again.
I don't use the internet generally and I am a very private person. I don't have a lot of time for the concept of all my business being known, whichj is why I stay off it. But I have no control over what he does.

I have really had enough of this. Did not want to report him to facebook as 'trying' to maintain a reasonable relationship with him. I feel like killing him.

What to do.

Report him to Facebook .... Stand up to him. If he knows he can do what he wants he will do what he wants. Clearly there are bigger issues here but for what it is worth, I think he is a selfish twat.

I think I probably need more information before i can give my opinion. What sort of pictures? What sort of information? Where does he post them - on Facebook? Or elsewhere?

I think on the face of it, as you have asked him to stop then he should stop posting any pictures of you but unfortunately there's probably very little you can do to stop him posting photos or information of your daughter.

Context is all important here. What sort of info and where?

As you have asked him to stop posting pictures of you then he really ought to comply but I don't think there is much you can reasonably domregardingbhis posting pictures of his own daughter.

Thank you! All I know is - I feel violated and that it is insecure...

They are just pictures of us doing normal things, but it creates a prescence on the internet that I generally deliberately avoid, and he knows how I feel about it.
I dislike the concept of Facebook and the power they have over other people's information. I have told him I want no part in it.

Also, he has now given permission a photo of us both - leading back to info from our real lives - to be posted elsewhere by a total stranger. I would never have agreed to that in a million years. I agree cookcleanerchauffer - he is a selfish twat.

I feel the same as you. I don't like personal photos etc released into the public domain. FB horrifies me. I don't know what you can do about it though - perhaps go along to CAB to see where you stand and what powers you have to block it? or google to see what comes up. You have my sympathy and imo YANBU.

How do you know all this OP?

YANBU about him posting private information about you, but he is your DDs parent also so it is also up to him if he wants to post pics of her on FB.

I dont like FB but Im more concerned that pretty much my every move when I step out of the door is on CCTV somewhere.

Can't see you can complain about the photos of your child if she is his child too.

I would look to get removed photos and info specifically about you if you feel that strongly about it.

Thank you all. I have sent him an email highlighting the fact that his latest photo is now swimming round the net as it concerns something people are talking about.

If he does it again after seeing how upset I was about this, I will report him to Facebook.

How do I know all this Worra?

A friend of mine is a friend of his on facebook. I wouldn't have known it was there otherwise.

I think you have a right to tell him you don't want your image used, but he has equal say to what happens to picture is your dd. That means you come to stalemate if he feels as strongly as you do, and unfortunately you can't stop him.

I wouldn't worry too much if you know his settings are private, what's the worst that can happen? I know how you feel because I have had simelar with my own ex, but I just had to get used to it.

If he is your ex, where did he get the photo of you from?

He took it. He has an annoying habit of taking photographs of people without their permission too. He thinks he is a photographer.

As the day goes on, this gets worse as people are posting it on their facebooks and commenting (nicely, but still...)

I just...don't want him to post who and where we are, what we do and photographs I haven't given permission for to be bandied about on the net.

What I am most upset about I have realised...is that he knows I wouldn't have wanted this. It does feel like a violation.

I'll never have any say about whether or not my daughter and I now appear on the net...it's tough, I suppose. It will be somewhere forever.

You have a say about you!!! If you feel that strongly about your photo, contact facebook, make a stand!!!