To make DH get up

[gluttom]

I don't think I am but I feel a but guilty fit some odd reason.

We have 3 dc - ds1 is 4, ds2 is 2.7 and dd is 3mths. Dd feeds every 2 - 3 hrs overnight and at the moment she has a cold so is not really settled at all. Ds 1 wet the bed twice last night and ds2 lost his rabbit once.

DH came to bed at 12 and promptly felll asleep whilst I was feeding dd (he brought her up as I came up at 10 and got 2 hrs peaceful rest). After this feed she never really settled and I had to get up change ds1 bed and then again find ds2 rabbit interspersed with bf/ rocking dd. ds2 wants up at 7 and dd is actually asleep so I ask DH and he is a bit huffy at getting up saying he did it yesterday but he had 7hrs solid sleep Friday night too.

I think I am being fair but just need to check as the morning is hard doing breakfast etc but Ivan so tired.

Drag him up. DP has escaped to the gym and both DCs have had me up most the night.

You are being totally fair. If he grumbles ask him if he would like you to get up and help out if he had been awake half the night, or whether he would be ok to let you sleep. Sometimes that's all it takes for them to realise how tired you must be. decides one child is enough

Whoever did the night shift gets to have a lie in, while the other sorts out breakfast and supervises during the early morning hours. That's the rule here anyway.

YANBU.

Don't think you're being unreasonable here. DH & I take it in turns on weekends & holidays to get up with the kids. If I have a really bad night up & down with them then I'll ask him to get up instead.

It's always horrible having to get up when you think you're getting a lie in, but maybe he'll stop the huffing after he's been up for a while and realise you need the extra sleep today more than he does.

Hell no, get him up!! I'm wondering why he didn't do the bed linen and teddy retrieval, I'd have made ny dh if I was still bf like you are!

Make him get up! I am saying that someone who has been up a large portion of the night with my DS and whose DP is currently sleeping while I sort out the kids. It is both of your responsibilty and sleep deprivation is torture

We take turns for weekend morning lie ins, but not if I have had a particularly bad night, plus DH is responsible for DS1 in the night (2.3y and still wakes 2 or 3 times a week), while I am responsible for DS2 as he is bf. I think that is pretty fair.

So YANBU.

Thanks for replies - just woke up and dd still asleep next to me.
DH will be ok -it was just his reaction that made me question myself - he was woken from a deep sleep and I was making him rush to get ds out of the room before he woke dd up.
He can't do the boys in the night as he sleeps so deeply that he doesn't wake up to them shouting so I have to wake him and he is stumbling around like a drunk - he doesn't sprung up and into action - useless.
I would co sleep and do sometimes but mainly dd is in her moses basket as if she is awake she just wants feeding and feed back to sleep but if she is upset she wants movement/rocking. Dd awake now - will join the chaos downstairs!

YANBU.

I've done every night shift and early morning with my DS 7m. That's 32 weeks of crap sleep. DH can't has he'works'.

It's the weekend, he'll get up at 11am - DS and I have been up since 6.

I could cry.

why do you all put up with this.

in this house DH lie in is a sunday and mine is a Saturday..........this was after almost 3 years when i didn't have any sleep and flipped out at DH

happydotcom, does he work at weekends too? If not, why is he not at least doing his share on Friday and Saturday nights (assuming you're on maternity leave - if you're back at work he should be doing more).

YANBU, OP. DH does all the night shifts here because DS settles much better for him (and is 17 months so there aren't night feeds any more) and so I do all the early mornings.