To tell ds no in a raised voice when out??

[MamaMaiasaura]

Ok shopping is hell on earth on a Saturday in town, but we went with 3 dc in the hope of spending ther as money in sales on something nice for them. Ds is just 4 and was tired and playing up. After running off, laying on floor, jumping on beds in John Lewis (all whilst dh was "meant" to be in charge) I finally stepped in and raised my voice to a NO. This was on hos level. To which I was really scowled and tutted at. Really pissed me off all these judgey people (older women today), who clearly think I'm a shit parent. Rant over

Rutted at sounds fun if your a deer. Tutted at is what I meant.

On older (but definitely not tutty!) colleague at work told me once, when I said I felt like all I did was tell DS off: 'I'd rather my kids hate me, than everyone else hate my kids'. It's very true, whilst DS sometimes thinks I'm shouty mummy, everyone else thinks he's very polite and well behaved most times.

Did have a mexican wave of tuts when he screamed all round Tescos once, and in the end OH had to carry him out, kicking and screaming, down past the whole row of tills ... it was a Tesco Extra too!

Just ignore 'em. I'm sure DS and I must have been tutted at from time to time in his 9 years, but you know what? I''m oblivious to it all!

I don't mind parents telling their children off in public as long as they do not shout. Shouting simply tells us something about their family life and there'll a future appearance on the Jeremy Kyle Show. A quiet word is better and, as another poster has said, use a naughty spot somewhere in a shop. Doing that in public will soon teach the children to behave.

Mabel - I did raise my voice, but not ranting or sweary in a Jeremy Kyle way. I have shouted very loudly (enough to make passer by jump). But that was because ds2 had let go of dh hand and was legging it towards very busy road. He was going to press crossing light button but at 3 (he was then) I wouldn't trust him to stop and I do not want my children running towards roads.

Lesley - I doubt tutting was because I hadn't intervened before unless they were stalking us

If I see a parent dealing with a tantrum or telling off their child I normally smile at them in a kind of sympathetic way! Have been known to share stories of best tantrums!Kids kick off and need to be told to pack it in sometimes! I will happily admit to being the parent of two kids who are mostly lovely but occasional monsters!
OP you just sound like a good mum who thinks safety and good behaviour are important. You go girl?!.!.

YANBU Discipline is a sign of good parenting if you ask me.

My ds had a insane paddy today in a public place , I told him to shut up, after and hour of kicking and biting I dare somone to tut at me

YANBU at all, you were parenting your DS.

I don't think JL has any signs up banning families from entering to spend their money on Saturday mornings do they?! If the old bag dear wanted to shop at a quieter time then she should have gone in the week when everyone else is at work

I reserve my tuts/judgy-pant hoisting for those parents who don't bother to correct inappropriate behaviour....