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Tax fraud WWYD?

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whattodotodo · 06/01/2012 23:03

My very abusive ex has paid no tax, none at allfor around 20 years even though he has worked the whole time. What would you guys do?

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Bossybritches22 · 06/01/2012 23:33

but if he's not, the ordure has just interacted with the ventilation device

Love it TP will be using that Grin

As long as it won't impact on you go for it.

And when HMRC have proved he IS liable for tax you can slap in a CSA claim.

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whattodotodo · 06/01/2012 23:34

Lisaro I'd like to think that's what they'd do, but he would automatically think it was me and act accordingly.

AgentZigZag yes again :(.

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AgentZigzag · 06/01/2012 23:35

I wasn't saying that to scare anyone Talkin.

My post was about whether he'd guess or not and the implications if he did, not whether the form linked to the person reporting.

I wasn't questioning its anonymity.

DoesBuggerAll · 06/01/2012 23:40

While you're at it OP could you report some other gigantic tax dodgers too. Perhaps Philip Green or Richard Branson, Vodafone etc. These tax dodgers make your ex's tax dodging seem like a drop in the ocean.

You want to report him to punish him in an act of vengance. Step back and have a long hard think about it. Seeking revenge is not something that reflects well on you.

DoesBuggerAll · 06/01/2012 23:41

edit: vengeance

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whattodotodo · 06/01/2012 23:49

DoesBuggerAll I know :(
Since I left I've tried to do all the right things, but he has been horrendous. I don't want to out myself but he has taken my life apart and is loving every minute of it. Its been so bad that I wonder if I should have stayed and he was very abusive in every way.
I am having a long think... I just want him to leave me alone, but he just won't let up and I just long to throw a metaphorical punch back IYSWIM.

I'm just so worried about the consequences. Sorry I'm going round in circles. Its really helping hearing everyones take on it

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LaVolcan · 06/01/2012 23:54

DoesBuggerAll, while I agree with you about Philip Green et al., at the same time the government goes after Benefit cheats who are defrauding the system of a lot less money than some of these people who are avoiding paying tax. HMRC won't chase up what they regard as trivial sums which is still more than some people on benefits get done for.

My concern for whattodotodo is that she needs to get as far away as possible from the ex. It's easily possible that someone else will shop him but that he will think it's her and take his revenge on her.

Pickgo · 06/01/2012 23:58

Do it What to - he effing well deserves it and it will make you feel better. Do it for every bit of shit he put you and your children through and don't give it another second's thought.
As for it not reflecting well on you - that's only if your standing it some sel-righteous, sanctimonious mirror Angry

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whattodotodo · 07/01/2012 00:00

LaVolcan that's crossed my mind too! Someone else does it and I get the blame.

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whattodotodo · 07/01/2012 00:06

Pickgo thankyou x
That's how I feel when I'm feeling tough... then I bottle it.

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ilovesooty · 07/01/2012 00:12

Would you report him if he were claiming benefits fraudulently?

AgentZigzag · 07/01/2012 00:13

Say you reported him and he asked whether it was you who did it OP, would you be able to keep every single bit of how happy you are at him getting his comeuppance bottled up inside when he's in front of you?

You'd not let any leak out when you're stood face to face with him?

If he's been prone to violence in the past, I wouldn't want to poke the hornets nest because he's going to be Very. Pissed. Off.

I know it's his reponsibility and he deserves it, and I can understand wanting to hurt him like he's hurt you, but what would the likely outcome be do you think?

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whattodotodo · 07/01/2012 00:32

AgentZigZag you read my mind!
I've been thinking and I would have to deny it..no doubt in that at all. I've got a restraining order so I won't have to be face to face with him though. TBH if he was infront of me (as has happened in court) I doubt I'd even make eye contact let alone show any happy emotion. I literally feel sick when I'm in the same room as him and I think that would trump it

He nearly killed someone for alot less so a hornets nest is a good analogy.

ilovesooty I don't know.

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BluddyMoFo · 07/01/2012 00:35

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AgentZigzag · 07/01/2012 00:40

Fucking hell, don't do it if he doesn't know when to stop.

Although that doesn't stop you playing it out in your mind Smile

'Yes wankerman, it was ME! I told them what a low down conniving little scrote you are Smile'

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whattodotodo · 07/01/2012 00:42

If only he wasn't in it.. we have a DC together. If I was allowed I'd move countries to get away from him ... but I do see where you're coming from...

I do think that most of the time, which is why its been a year, but he just won't give up :(

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whattodotodo · 07/01/2012 00:46

AgentZigZag I do! and he ends up in prison and we're free! and we can change our names and dissapear! Yay! BUMP back to reality.
I'm off to bed. Thanks to all you for your replies x

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Jasper · 07/01/2012 00:57

Do it

AgentZigzag · 07/01/2012 01:36

I love a poster of few words Grin Jasper

Why can't I be so black and white about Stuff?

Don't you ever feel like letting your hair down and passing a bit of judgement though?

mynewpassion · 07/01/2012 02:12

Were you guys married? If so, you better be careful as his tax debts might be your tax debts too.

lisaro · 07/01/2012 02:27

mynew passion Everyone is taxed separately in the UK. Also, debts are separate unless jointly incurred.

skybluepearl · 07/01/2012 07:39

shop him. that way he can pay CSA

FellatioNelson · 07/01/2012 07:45

I think if it didn't bother you while you were benefitting from the illegal spoils then it really should not bother you now.

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whattodotodo · 07/01/2012 08:11

Not married.
Fellatio I didn't know until a few months before I left him. He also tried to con me out of money too and nearly suceeded but that's a whole other story.

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FellatioNelson · 07/01/2012 08:13

OK, didn't read the thread, sorry.