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Giving up bed - heavily pregnant

19 replies

oceans21 · 06/01/2012 20:23

Feeling quite upset (and a bit angry) so prob IABU and just need to whinge! In the middle of a house move at the mo and DSCs' (new) beds are already in the new house with only our bed here. Had arranged that they wouldn't stay this weekend (as nowhere to sleep) then DP decides to change the arrangement - ie that they will stay. Obviously this means them having our bed and me sleeping on couch / floor. This wouldn't be a problem except that I due very soon and am in agony with my back and not sleeping too well anyway - which DP is well aware of. Ex had asked if we could accomodate (she has a good reason and was only asking, not demanding by any means, so in no way being unreasonable) so I'm not pissed off with her just him. Whinge over - feel free to let rip!

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CMOTDibbler · 06/01/2012 20:25

Why not just borrow/buy an air bed and let them sleep on that ? No way you should be sleeping on the floor

GwendolineMaryLacey · 06/01/2012 20:25

Why does them staying mean they have to have your bed? Bugger that for a laugh. I'm 40 weeks pg and no way in hell would I give up my bed for anyone. I'm not sure why you should give up your bed for the kids anyway even if you weren't pg...

Let them sleep on the couch or floor. They're young, they'll get over it.

ChristinedePizan · 06/01/2012 20:26

Umm - they are children, you're not. AND you're pregnant (which I presume is your DP's doing). Why the fuck will they 'have' your bed? I don't understand. It's your bed. Why would you give it up? I don't even give my bed to my elderly parents - it's mine!

Sirzy · 06/01/2012 20:26

Let them "camp" on the floor, make it an exciting thing for them and you have the comfort of the bed!

Salmotrutta · 06/01/2012 20:27

Err, why can't the DCs sleep on floor/couch?

Why on earth would a pregnant woman have to give up her bed?

Shushshessleeping · 06/01/2012 20:28

They're kids, they'll prob enjoy sleeping on a blow up mattress, its like an adventure! Depending on ages of course. Don't give up your bed.

FlightRisk · 06/01/2012 20:30

I have a bad back (been there since I was pregnant) and I actually find the settee more comfortable.

Also my DS sometimes sleeps in a pop up tent when sleeping at my Aunties. He loves it. If you have access could be an exciting and comfortable nights sleep Smile

Salmotrutta · 06/01/2012 20:30

I rarely criticise other people's partners on here but if this is your DHs suggestion he is being very thoughtless.

Kids will pretty much sleep anywhere as long as they are warm and comfy

StopRainingPlease · 06/01/2012 20:32

Beyond weird. Even if not pregnant I wouldn't give up my bed for kids - adults get the beds, kids get the floor. End of. Hope this helps! (Oh and who is it that thinks it's "obvious" that the kids should get your bed?")

DialMforMummy · 06/01/2012 20:50

YANBU
Just say no. Warn their mum they might have to sleep on the floor/ couch/ borrowed air bed and tell your husband to get a grip.

eurochick · 06/01/2012 20:52

Just get them an airbed. Don't give up your bed!

JustHecate · 06/01/2012 20:56

Don't give up your bed. What the hell?! Angry

Your husband is totally unreasonable to expect you to do that and you would be totally unreasonable to agree!

Send your husband out to buy a couple of airbeds. Or ask his ex if she has sleeping bags for the children.

Do NOT give up your bed.

I cannot believe he could even ask that of you. Clearly he has got NO idea what it feels like to be heavily pregnant.

oceans21 · 06/01/2012 21:22

Thanks all - some really good advice and much appreciated especially as I mustered up some hormonal-induced assertiveness and got DP to read this! Got an apology Wink and DP will be hunting down air beds etc tomorrow. Feel Blush to say though that I (we) have given our bed up for the DSCs before now - that's why it seemed like the (il)logical thing to do. Guess it's easy to get drawn into always putting the kids first - especially when they are SCs - and letting the boundaries of what is sensible get blurred. Problem solved though so thanks again Grin.

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LiegeAndLief · 06/01/2012 21:23

Obviously this means them having your bed? Seriously?! There is no way in hell my own parents would have given up a bed for me and my brother - in fact numerous times when staying at friends' houses they would be in the spare bed or the friends' children's beds and all the kids would be on the dining room floor. We thought it was fun. Don't think this is an issue - kids sleep on floor (or air bed, sofa cushions etc) - you keep bed - sorted.

LiegeAndLief · 06/01/2012 21:24

Sorry cross post! Glad you are not giving up your bed after all Smile

thepeoplesprincess · 06/01/2012 21:29

Just as an aside- have you tried putting an extra duvet under the sheet? Twas bliss for me in pg.

Dirtydishesmakemesad · 06/01/2012 21:47

dont give them your bed, I am assuming they are not young babies so either buy an airbed or have a sleeping bag camp out on the floor!

HowlingBitch · 06/01/2012 21:55

Aw that's good news for you (and your back). Most kids love blow up beds anyway, Tell them they will be camping indoors. :)

CokeZeroAddict · 06/01/2012 23:25

Argh, why are so many men such complete freaking useless morons? Seriously I think a great many women would be much better off on their own.

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