For not wanting to go out EVERY weekend?

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My friend was made a single parent in the summer of last year. She was due to be getting married when she realised her DF had been seeing someone else and actually had no intention of marrying her. Awful business. Once she got over it, she started going on every weekend with a friend. Not just a few in the local but a proper piss up until 3-4am. She asked me many times to join her and I declined for ages but eventually agreed. I went on 3 or 4 nights out with them which on the whole I enjoyed but have to admit, the 3-4am finishes are a bit much for me! Therefore after the last 4am finish I said in future I'd still go out with them but make my way home at 12ish. Anyway since then she's asked me every weekend to go out and seems to think I'm being boring saying no. There are no childcare/money issues - I just don't want to do it EVERY weekend because a)doing the same thing all the time gets boring and b) I'd rather spend the money on other stuff sometimes and not waste it.
As I'm also a single parent, there is this expectation that I should join their weekly piss-up club gladly. Am I being a boring old fart because I don't want to?

Occasionally yeah - every week? too much!

Of course YANBU - but there's no need for her to be privy to the mechanics of your decision.

What I mean is, sometimes go, sometimes don't, sometimes come home at 12, sometimes earlier, sometimes later. There's no need to tell her that you will not be doing it every weekend/you will always be coming home at 12 etc etc. The more information you give people sometimes, the more ammunition they have to manipulate you.

Re-reading that, I don't mean you shouldn't tell her that you're going on a particular night, of course you should tell her on an occasion-by-occasion basis. Just don't tell her what your overall plans are regarding going out per-se.

I like to go 'out' out about once every 2 months now, but at first when I became single I wanted to go out a lot more! The novelty will wear off for your friend too.

OMG - I think if I schedule it in now I could just about cope with a 3am bedtime in about May 2013! I am however 38 - which prob explains my attitude.

I think in the interests of full disclosure people should post their ages along with their comments.

YANBU

I could never stay out these days until 3-4am. Oddly, though, I could stay up at home drinking until 3-4am.