BIL is mid 30s. Lives about 4/5 hours away from his parents. Never had a GF, lives in a rented room in a mates house. Has a higher degree from Oxbridge and a job he doesn't like very much.
Spends all holidays at his parents. Went down for Christmas on the Thursday, and before he went realised his car was not quite right. However, he drove to his parents. Then he left it until the day he was due to go back before finding a garage who told him his 'big end' had gone and car therefore a write off given age/value.
He missed a day of work and his Dad then lent him his car to go home in until he could buy a new one (cash is sitting there - just needs to find one he likes).
So MN jury, would you have lent him your car? I wouldn't have because I think his uselessness is being enabled and I am determined my DS will not be like this! (fingers crossed!)