To hope lost sex drive will just return?

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Since having ds 2 years ago, I just don't make time to have sex... Anyone else out there who is the same? I enjoy it, just can go without it...it gets sidelined by other things... What is wrong with me?

dum I always found that exciting before ds... Haven't tried it since. I think I need to spend more time thinking about sex rather than what needs cleaning next! I'm going to buy some erotic novels...

AdditionMultiplication, I think it's hard to feel sexy when you are BFing. You get your cuddles from your baby, and mentally you can feel a bit like you want your own 'space' - rather than rolling into bed and having to engage with another human being... It can be hard, but it gets better. As long as your partner is sympathetic it will be OK. Perhaps you can ask your DP to do some of the chores that are lurking at the back of your mind, so that you can switch off together. Or try to switch off the telly 30mns earlier than usual and head off to bed to chat and chill out. No need to agree to get jiggy, just see how it goes.

I feel the same too OP.
Can anyone recommend any erotic novels please?

Yes recommendations would be great. I read some awful ones in the past.

Maturbating is fine, although don't get the chance much. Think it is related to performing as he has always kept doing until we both orgasmed and now it takes me so long with him, it seems like I'm putting him through a marathon. We both used to know what did the trick bit now it's like being a virgin all over and learning about your body, but I don't have time to laze around I bed having sex endlessly anymore! ;)

I have a couple of black lace books, they are quite good. I read fanfic now if you come over to the TSA thread in adult fiction and we can provide whatever you have a fancy for :)
Also, when you say it takes an hour to climax, is that through penetration, or dedicated foreplay? I'm afraid to say I have always taken my orgasms in hand, more so since being pg (couldn't get the angle right!) and I find it is far quicker and more effective than when DH does it. He doesn't mind, so I tend to touch myself while he is inside and I can come very quickly as long as we have some nice foreplay first. Vibrators are great and don't desensitise you, you can get some very dainty little stimulator things that don't mimic cocks! Very man friendly.

Romantic erotic novels are the best, I picked up a load from a car boot sale once.

It's more of a mental thing, doesn't matter if it's me or him taking it in hand while having sex... I get to the point where I feel close them it dissipates and this happens 3 or 4 times until it happens. I'm sabotaging it by thinking to much about it.

I think it sounds like you need to stop even aiming for an orgasm. Just fool around for a bit, fun stuff you both enjoy, assume you're not going to climax (explain to him why) and maybe it will take you by surprise one day!

The more you have it definitely helps. Just had it for fourth time in four days. Was my new years resolution and closeness has returned almost immediately. Been having it about half nine before I am too tired!!! Feel much better as we were down to about three times a month and we both missed it. I have 2 dc and work part time and am tired a lot of the time but determined to try and get sex life back on track!!

You've got great advice here.

I haven't got much to add, just that since I stopped BFing and I get more sleep I am MUCH more interested in sex.

And vibrators do help. a lot