MIL and Christmas!!

[Pinotyes111]

AIBU,... My MIL asked what we would like for xmas, as we had no idea she said that she would give us BOTH money, so xmas day arrives, my DH had a nice card with HIS name on it not mine with money for xmas.
Do you think that I am being silly as to me I thought it was for both of us and if it was, surely she could have addressed it to me too. NB there was even a card inside with the money addressed just to DP.
Is it me or do you think thats odd too??

obviously, as your husband, he manages all the finances of the household and can dole out your "pin money" from what she gave him as he see's kit??

Is dp going to share?

It's odd, but maybe she just didn't think.

What's your dh being like over it? Is he happy to split it or get something for both of you, or is he wanting to spend it on himself?

YABU because it is Jan 4th

Don't know really, did you get a card? Was it like £50 so just shoved it
In one card for ease instead of finding 2 fivers to put £25 in each?

Did DH split it. Maybe she
Thought it was joint funds so just kept it all together for you to put straight in the bank

Not knowing your history, financial arrangements etc I can't tell if yabu

If you didn't receive any other form of present would just assume money is for both of you and as she is your DP's mother she might have just automatically addressed card/money to him.

My dm sent me a cheque for Christmas which was just addressed to me but was for both of us. I just paid it in to the joint account so we can both share it. We have used it for a deposit on a holiday.

My mum and dad bought us each some smellies, then some money. The card was just to me

DP will share it, yes that was our present, it was £150 in a card addressed to him, I just thought it was odd, like you say larry if it was a cheque then I would understand but to put cash in a card saying Happy Christmas and only put DP name on it I find a little odd?
Maybe i am just being sensitive about it all? And yes I know Its Jan 4th! haha, only just got back!

very odd, MIL gave us money adressed to both of us.

£150?! No wonder you want half!

The card should have been addressed to both of you. This is odd behaviour.

Yes I am glad that it is not just me who thinks it is odd, we have never been "close" but we do get on, even so, it has made me feel a little pushed out.

It was a generous gift which she said was intended for you both. I wouldn't go out of my way to be offended by it.

Fil does this, he gives dh money for the both of us.

He's very old and manages all the finances for him and mil. (dh is dreading fil passing away as she really hasn't got a clue about bills, finances, bank accounts etc). I just let it wash over me now its another generation and I'm sure he doesnt mean to be so sexist!

My MIL used to do this, give her 'boys' the money and us SIL's would be lucky to get a small box of Roses. What was worse DH didnt think he had to share it as it was 'his'

Your MIL gave yiz 150 smackers for Xmas and you're moaning about whose name was on the card?

Um, okay.

My MIL did this as we wanted money for a piece of furniture. As we were planning to put it together I probably would've prefered it together. As it was DH got a cheque for £150, DS £100 and me £50. Pecking order I guess?

Just for clarification, this OP isn't me.

As you were :)