For feeling guilty all the time?

[WheresTheCat]

I work full time. I did before I had DD, and then from when she was 4 months old. It's not a choice. If DH and I didn't work full time we wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. DD is an only child because we can't afford any more children.
I feel guilty all the time - about DD being an only child, about working full time - made worse by the fact that none of her friends' Mums work more than two days a week, and then only during school hours.
Am I feeling guilty for no reason? I worry that this is somehow going to damage DD.

Oh the glove thing, mind do that and I am a SAHM. I used to go up to school with forgotten items sometimes but now they take or do with out. I have better things to do

stop being so drippy,you can help it,and you don't need to mooch about like a guilt ridden soul

take stock of what you have, what you as parents have achieved.be proud,have quiet smile

and take that ruddy big cross of your back

There was a thread on here recently about how a lot of sahm's wish they had known just how much taking a long break from working would affect their long term careers.

Just pointing out that you are probably doing the best thing for your career long term, and that if your daughter sees a mother with a real career and pride in that, that is a fantastic example for her.

I don't know if I would have worked f/t when mine was a baby, but I was renting, not paying a mortgage, so i didn't have to make that decision.
I would be OK with working full time now ds is older, but I don't seem to be able to get that much work! (Still trying!)

All the women in my family have worked f/t as far back as I know about, and as far as I know everybody survived just fine.
In fact, my mum, for example, was getting tea on the table at 10 because her mum was at work, and that has just made her very capable and practical.

As long as you spend time with your dd when you are not at work, she will be fine.

Thing is, I'm not really bothered about having a 'career' - I work to live rather than the other way round. I think it's the fact that I never had choice about whether to stay at home or work.
however I do take on board what you're saying, that I am unreasonable for feeling guilty.
DD and us do spend loads of time together doing fund stuff when we're not at school/working, so I need to focus on this rather than over analysing every little thing that goes wrong.

My mum stayed at home and I don't think she enjoyed it much. I've often wondered if I would have been a more confident person had I gone to nursery! DD will be fine and you will be a great role model for her.