To give up all puddings /sweets etc

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I know some one who has lost a startling amount of weight over the last 12 months. He says it's been achieved by always saying no to anything sweet (apart from fruit) so no cakes, biscuits, chocolate etc.

Other than that he eats exactly what he wants and a much as he likes and exercises moderately. I can vouch for the fact that he doesn't appear to have denied himself in other ways, he practically ate the whole cheese board with loads of bread when he was here over Christmas and he had plenty to drink too.

As I'm a bit of an all or nothing girl (i.e. I can have no chocolate, but I can't have just one piece of chocolate) I think I might be able to stick to this better than just cutting down iyswim.

My friend has been incredibly strict on this, wouldn;t have Christmas pud or birthday cake for example, because he's worried that if he had a taste again he'll undo all his good work, which I understand.

But, aren't there circumstances when it's rude to refuse point blank to eat what someone has prepared for you? I'd feel particularly uncomfortable about refusing to share someone's birthday cake (without a medical reason) for example.

You can refuse and explain why, or kid yourself that it's impolite to refuse.
Losing weight can be a medical reason, as excess weight is unhealthy.

Why would you feel 'uncomfortable' refusing someone's birthday cake, that's just odd?

FWIW, you know your own willpower and if you can't stop at one chocolate/one biscuit etc...then you probably are best to give them a miss altogether.

I don't think it's BU to refuse cake/sweet etc. To be honest, research is begginning to show that it's the inflammatory effects of sugar that cause multiple health problems (heart disease, diabetes, dementia) etc, rather than fat intake and that 'low fat' dietary advice isn't necessarily all that accurate. I am 'on' sugar at the moment, but have (and will after pg when it's easier to be stricter) done in the past and I can't tell you how amazing you feel and how easy it is to resist after about 2-3 weeks. Do it!

I intend to do this as soon as I have this baby

Until then I shall have Cadbury heroes for breakfast

You could just say 'no thanks, I'm on a diet', if you feel you have to give a reason, I'd sure no one would be offended by that!

Personally I don't think there's a need to give up sweet foods completely, nothing wrong with the occasional treat IMO. But if that's what works for you, then go for it, and don't make excuses :)

I did this a few years ago, I cut out all sugars except fruit, and I drop an incredible amount of weight, it also helped change my eating habits as I lost my sweet tooth.

Wish I could do this.

In general if someone offers you something it is always acceptable to say "No thank you very much". Explanations are incredibly boring and therefore rude.

You really need to give up white carbs too, as your body treats them as sugar and you will still crave.

Cold turkey is hard and you will tend to crash massively, this book is amazing, well worth a fiver.

It is never rude to refuse food. "Oh it would be rude so I'll have a piece" is one of the reasons why people stay fat.

I gave up all sweets, puddings, choc, crisps etc when I had ds 17 weeks ago. I've exercised 4 times a week too. I've lost over 2 stones and am back at my pre-pregnancy weight. I feel really, really, really well. I did have some Christmas pudding and some choc over Christmas and it tasted so bloody lovely as it was such a treat.

After a while you simply don't miss it or care. If I really fancied something, I'd just have it tbh, life's too short but I've found that there's plenty of other stuff I love which isn't the normal go to snacky stuff that it's not an issue.

Of course bfing, losing excess water, shrinking uterus etc etc helps. It's not just cutting out the junk and exercising for me.

Refusal for cake:

'No thank you, I'm a bit full right now, but I may have some later if there's any left'

Said with a smile, it has never (knowingly) caused offence.

Never feel bad for putting exactly what you want in your own mouth!

You can politely decline birthday cake with a 'not for me thanks' and if they insist, ask if you can take a piece away with you for later... only an arse would press you further, and if they do, stand your ground politely.

If you're eating out, its perfectly acceptable to ask for alternatives, to enquire what's in the dish, to not eat it all.

I'm off the refined sugars and saturated fats, as well as bread (but only because it doesn't agree with me over time) and I know I'll start losing a couple of lbs a week from now on (if I also watch what I drink).

Go for it. But if it makes you miserable or every so often you have a craving, its also okay to give in ocassionally, and its important to if you feel that way, because choosing not to eat something is very different to feeling that you can't. Good luck. :)

I have to refuse cake and chocolate anyway because I don't like either. I can't say anyone has ever given me the impression that they are offended by this. If they look like they want an explanation I just acknowledge that I'm weird.