FFS, DH, is it so hard to stop at "a bit pissed"?!

[Jennyrosity]

Grrrr. Am currently 37 and a half weeks into a high-risk first pregnancy. Baby is on the big side and, according to my obstetrician, likely to come early.

Over the Christmas and new year period, DH has gone out several times with his mates. I am perfectly happy about this, have even suggested it a couple of times, the only thing I have asked of him is that he not get too pissed, just in case. I'm not asking him to stay sober, just not get so drunk he's incapable of supporting me if I need him to.

Every. Single. Time he has come back completely hammered. He's just done it again - went out to meet a mate at 4pm "for a couple", staggered in 5 minutes ago pissed as a newt and clutching a revolting-smelling takeaway.

I really don't think I am BU - I don't mind him going out, I don't mind him having a few drinks, I don't even mind him getting a bit tipsy - all I ask is for him to remain coherent enough that should something happen he can do slightly more than give me a glazed look and fall over!!!

Plus I have enough difficultly sleeping without having his beer-induced snores and farts to contend with all night! Aargh!!!

Tuesday night pissed as a fart? Doesn't he work? Why encourage him what about when he becomes a father and breathes that breath all over your new baby. What about is health?

He's still on annual leave, Fabby. I encourage him to see his mates precisely because when baby arrives he won't get many opportunities - which he accepts and is fine about - and I want him to get out and enjoy himself while he can (God knows I did it often enough myself, pre-pregnancy).

I just wish he knew his limits better.

He clearly doesn't give a fuck about you. What a shit.

God no- I don't think YABU at all in the circs. If there's ever a time to remain sober and sensible, it's when your missus is full-term.

What's the plan for transporting you to hosp. when labour starts?;

I don't think you are BU at all. But perhaps it is the fact that he knows that things will change dramatically once baby comes along, is why he ends up very pissed. You know, his last chance to have a bender blah blah blah. Do his mates gave kids?

However, at this stage in your pregnancy, he needs to wind his neck in and be in a suitable state in case you suddenly go into labour. You need to have a word!!

My DH was exactly the same when I was pregnant with DS; I kept asking him to cut back drinking in case he needed to drive me the 30 miles to hospital. He did eventually "cut down" to 4 pints per drinking session-still far too much to safely drive. I have to admit to feeling slightly "told-you-so-smug" when I told him my contractions had started when he was in the pub!

Is he viewing this as his last opportunity to "have fun"? He understands that things will change once the baby is here, but probably doesn't understand how they will change and that a life is still perfectly possible, it just takes organisation.

Have you told him that you think he's being a bit of a pillock and to calm it down a bit?!

Taxi, we don't have a car and the hospital is only 5 minutes away.

Tbh, I'm more than capable of getting myself there if I need to - I'll have if she makes a sudden appearance once he's gone back to work, I'm just a bit frustrated as it's happened a few times over the last two weeks.

He's generally a lovely man who loves me to bits, so I'm fairly certain this is just a last hurrah before he settles down to being a dad.

Does he actually know he won't be allowed in the delivery room with you if he's pissed as a fart?

Does he think getting pissed with his mates is more important than possibly being barred from the birth of his baby?

I have to say that I wouldn't expect him to stop behaving like this once the baby's born, OP. Sorry. Once you give birth, you realise he'll get absolutely pissed, don't you?

Did he have a problem with alcohol before now?

X-posted with a few people there - yes, I think you're all right, it's out-of-character for him so probably a reaction to it all starting to feel very real.

I will have a word tomorrow when he is sober and I am calmer!

Imperial, this isn't his usual behaviour, so I'm not overly concerned.

Hey there lady, take care of you and that baby, she be coming soon! Good luck

OP, I posted about this not so long ago so might help to read the responses:

here

Thank you Fabby, I will - very excited to meet her!

Cheers Cereal, will take a look.

How very irrating,This getting pissed thing totally not accectable.Be very careful it won't get it out his system,Just prepare yourself you could try talking to him letting him know how you feel,don't nag him to much but just see how much he cares.If it happens much more or or once you've had the baby d'ont stress yourself any more just end it with him life is to short to waste your time trying to steer him of the drink

Thank you rupert, I appreciate the concern, but I doubt this'll become a major issue. The guy is my best friend, he'd have to do a lot worse than this before I'd consider ending it!

His takeaway really does smell disgusting though...