To be a bit miffed that im not even offered a brew when doing a pal so many favours.

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I babysit every week for my freind who has no family nearby.
Im trying to knock it on the head becuase im finding it a bit much.
sposed to go last night but i text to say im not feeling too good (true)
She text back, cud i babysit this friday?
i replied yes, ive nothing on and dh & ds are out at footy anyway.
then came back another text, it will be from 5 at tea time.

ive dont this before for her, and came straight from work but they never ever even offer me a brew!
I say to them.."stick kettle on will you" but i have to say this, they never get up and make me one.

So now im going on Friday, taking a packed lunch tea as i wont get a drink, never mind a bicky.
So if it were me, and my pal was doing all this for me, i would be making a wee amount of effort, would you? Is this odd becuase i dont think that i am beng demanding at all!

But why aren't they on their way out? Can''t you just make your own? Or are they sitting there when you arrive? Maybe you need to go later.
And why take a packed lunch "because you won't' get a drink" you aren't banned from the kitchen the whole evening!

ANyway...sounds like they rely on you too much.

Sign yourself up with sitters.co.uk (as a babysitter) so you earn for your time and encourage her to too and then next time you can charge!

I would seriously be bending over backwards for a friend babysitting for me - and even though when I book our regular sitter through sitters they never eat anything I leave for them (biscuits or pizza for oven etc) I would never not leave anything!

Taking the piss otherwise.

I think you need to say something - ooh yes friday's fine - can you leave me a pizza in th fridge I can pop in the oven for dinner?

Why can't you make yourself a cup of tea when you are there?

I think you should just say no when they ask you.

Are you banned from making a cup of tea/snack? If so you need to ASK about what is expected.... ie., "Look I'm coming from work, so can I raid your fridge"

Okay, they've never offered, they ABU.

You've not asked, therefore YABU too.

And you can always say no.

A 'brew' doesn't quite cover it either way to be honest, unless that 'brew' is alcoholic and you can take it home with you for later.

Seriously they are taking advantage and you are letting them.

Get them to pay for a sitter like most other people have too

surely they go out when you babysit so they'd assume you'd just make a drink when you fancy it.

I do make a brew...in fact you ahve hit the nail on the head, they ask me to go at a certain time, then sit eating thier tea and dont leave for another hour or so..for that reason, i go much later but she has commented that i go too late to see her ds (he is my God son)
i do have a child of my own to sort out before i go to hers though,so its easier for me to go later, when they are actually leaving and the baby is in bed.
It means that i end up enetertaining the baby while they eat ther tea, then getting him in pj's and then bed. When i go later,he is in bed.

its just strange that they dont offer folk a cuppa, 1st thing i do is put the kettle on and crack open the biscuits when anyone comes to my gaff .

Ok, you're being a bit of a mug

Don't take a packed lunch tea (or at least don't let on if you do tke one as insurance)

Ring up and say

"I can babysit from 5 on Friday, but I will be coming straight from work so you will have to sort out some supper for me. Nothing fancy needed, but otherwise I can't get there until 6.30, as I will have to go home to eat"

They should be more considerate and appreciative if you are doing them such regular favours.

also...im going on a bit now, but they eat their tea on their knees, then put the plate down on the floor in front of them, step over the plate and then go out, leaving the dirty plates on the floor in the living room with me all night...is that not WEIRD behaviour???

Do i not have odd mates??

LOVE the idea of rose petals....BUT i really dont mind because her ds is absolutely gorgeous and good as gold and really she has no one near by to help her out.
I would just like a cup of coffee made for me, and possibly a biscuit would be nice....

You have very odd mates but you are letting them treat you like this.

As far as I'm aware being a godmother doesn't mean you have to provide weekly free babysitting.

Hellllllllllllllllllllllllllllo! Are you reading anyone's suggestions here or do you just want to keep telling us bits and bits and more bits? You've being taken for a mug anyway.

Why exactly are you friends with this pair of lazy feckers?

They are probably expecting you to wash up as well.

I think you should do as Meryl says above - they can either provide some dinner or wait until you have had yours at home. Don't let them take the piss like this - I am astounded that they'd sit and eat in front of you, not offering you any, when they know you haven't eaten and you are babysitting all night.

Ermm...OK!

That was to the OP btw.

I think I switched off at the leaving dishes on the floor part.

okokok SO,
im gonna carry on with the saying no more often, trying not to do the weekly thing, poss do a once a month offer, will go later and will march into the kitchen and put the kettle on when i arrive...she wont mind i am sure.

Still like the sound of rose petals tho