Over ''Check-Ins?''

[Zombi]

(Popping AIBU cherry!)

It really bothers me when people come to my home and ''Check in'' on FB or Foursquare. It's like they're oblivious to the fact that sites or apps with this feature publically map your location for all to see?!

There is absolutely NO way to prevent anyone checking in at your home and thus showing everyone on their list where you live because no tagging at all is required.

I'm also often bemused by people who check in to their own house on FB, particularly if they have people on their list who wouldn't normally know where they live.

Friends have told me to ''Chillax'' (yes, one friend actually said that.) But am I not entitled to a say in who knows my address and shouldn't people be a bit more careful in displaying their OWN address? There are folks on my FB that I don't know IRL (group friends etc) who have displayed their address to me this way!

Are people just not thinking or AIBU

reading that^ arf @ the idea of stalking your facebook friends and discovering they're all going to a concert without you, then rocking up^ uninvited

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Special powers huh!

The burglar thing isn't a huge issue. What IS an issue is that some of my friends are friends with people on FB from my past who I'd like kept there but will get a good old peek at my whereabouts if they notice a mutual friends' check in. Even though I've blocked them.

I had one friend say to me that ''Xas asking all these questions about you when he saw that I checked in at your house'' and I flipped out because it meant that he knew where I lived even though I'd blocked him on FB. That's what prompted me to post this thread.

Also, I just don't like public postings of my address. I'm old-fashioned like that.

reelingintheyears AWESOME link!

Yeah that happening would be annoying, OP, but also a great opportunity to give your friends the ground rules about what is and isn't acceptable regarding your privacy and social network sites.

I can't understand why any sane adult would want to use this feature.

Isn't it just a little bit, well, sad and pathetic?

Anyone using fb for anything other than

1. Keeping in distant contact with people you like but whom you'd struggle to otherwise and 2. Sharing interesting and entertaining (and carefully edited) photos

needs to have a word with themselves.

I would never use it but it seems to be all the rage with my DSs teenage mates

YANBU.

I would ask such friends not to check in. Or chuck them out... :)

lueji I've had to tell the people doing it that won't have them round if they don't remove check-ins at my place and agree to stop that they won't be welcome anymore. They've all looked at me like I have three boobs.

I hate to have to limit friendships because of something this silly. It makes me seem like a fussy cow but it bothers me too much to not do anything about it.

Well, that's how you know if they are real friends. They should respect your privacy concerns.

Oh wow another reason to make me glad I am not on Facebook.

Every time someone says to me "Are you not on Facebook? Whyyyyyyyy? You reeeeeeeeally reeeeeeeally should join!!" there is a nice thread on here to remind me what a preposterous self-aggrandising pile of cack it is.

Someone can still check in at your house balloon even if you aren't on Facebook. If you're bothered.

balloonslayer it doesn't even matter if you're not on fB. Any of your friends and family can still check in via gprs and name the check-in ''BalloonSlayer's House'' and anyone on the friend list of the person checking in can click the check-in and see the location of your house in the street you live in on a map

Can they?

Well here's hoping none of my mates are such utter twats then!

Spect it would be useful for checking whereabouts of teenage DCs in a few years though.

Not really because you can check in at places you are not. As I drive into our town I can click check in and a big list comes up. I could select the library, or I could select a pub, or I could create my own and call it your house. I don't have to actually be there.

I agree it's a daft idea.

But why are you facebook friends with people you don't know and trust in real life?

Xmasbaby that's really my choice, isn't it?! Even if I only had people I knew IRL on FB, other people on friends' pages would still be able to see my address whereas no-one on my list will because it doesn't show up on my profile even if I'm tagged (high privacy settings)

As to the people I don't know? They're all friends I've gathered through the years from parenting / special interest forums. If I feel comfortable with that, why not? It's really not the issue here. The reason I mentioned them at all is that the ones whom I don't already have the addresses for are practically giving them away to me by checking in at home.