To be really f*cking upset that the only comment DH has made about my pregnant body is...

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You can't wear those jeans anymore poppet, they make your bum look really big.
I'm 29 weeks pg with 2nd child. I know and accept DH doesn't find the pregnant form sexy, but this has just really upset me. I have body hang ups at the best of times, now I feel really really sh*t.
And before any smartarse comes along and asks, yes, he does have a point.

YADNBU.

Comments on the shape of pregnant ladies by DH/SIS/M/F/BIL and total bloody strangers should be made illegal.

Walk around with no trousers on, or buy something lovely for yourself that is not a pair of maternity jeans.

Ummm - no - he doesn't have a point. He sounds like an insensitive arse tbh. Bless - he doesn't find the pregnant form sexy? Fuck - I hate that!

Aside from the insult I would be pissed off that he feels he gets to decide what you can and can't wear! I would wear them to death and buy another pair in the same size and style for when they are in the wash the cheeky bugger.

thats a very strange thing for the man who supposedly loves you to say. As for not finding the pregnant form attractive well im lost for words.

Poppet?

He's a twat. Really.

I'd love to be like that Roman but I'm so paranoid vain I know I can never wear those jeans again without feeling really self conscious!
He really can be an insensitive arse Siamo. But he at least has the good grace to be mortified at how he has upset me.

Obsidian that actually raised a smile! I hate 'poppet' it's so fucking patronising!

Erk not nice.

Next time he pulls a pair of pants out of the wardrobe, look him straight in the eye and say

"not those ones honey, they make your cock look TINY"

Thanks MissVerinder

How I wish I'd thought of that greeneyes - bloody brilliant!

Greeneyes I'm definitely going to do that tomorrow morning!

Exactly what greeneyes says.

i would milk it now to teach him a lesson. if you are doing all the hard work carrying and giving birth to the baby the least he can do is fancy you, and say nice things about you.

i really hate this 'he doesn't find pregnant woman attractive' stance that people have. Sorry, but if i'm actually having the fucking baby, the least you can fucking do is fucking fuck me!

Sorry - i'm pregnant!

See, the last thing I would want is a pity shag! I'm happy for him not to find me 'sexy' but I'm very sad he doesn't seem to find me attractive. His problem though, not mine. Until he fucking says something like that!

I agree spuddy - it seems to me a very cheap nasty way of attempting to erode a woman's confidence at a time when her changing body shape should be a matter of awe frankly.

I got 'god that woman is really ugly. I mean shit you look better than her even now'

'even now'. Death stare at dh.

Although he does keep hankering for sex and im huuuge at 34w so i'd rather stick pins in my eyes.

That's what upset me most Siamo, it was so unnecessary for him to say it, so what was he trying to achieve?! I'm not even going to try and defend him on this one either. The dick.

Haha you'll have to update us as to what he says when you mention his 'tiny cock' pants! I think you should probably leave it a few days so he doesn't realise it's revenge. And don't tell him either just apologise for offending him.

yes but it's you he loves not your 'form'. Yes, there is a certain amount of visual stimulation, but surely you can either try to find the thought of the person (who is having a baby after all and not just been snaffling the greggs sausage rolls) sexy or just suck it up!

Are they never changing Adonis's?

If DP ever tells me i'm anything but gorgeous i'm kicking him out!

and if DP didn't want me when pregnant, i doubt i could want him when i was not pregnant.

Not many men fancy pregnant women per se, but most men fancy their partners while they are pregnant because attraction is about more than physical form.

I agree Obs - i would be a bit miffed if DP went phwoar whenever he saw a pregnant woman . But i would expect a nice response to my naked form.

What a twat. You give up loads to carry the baby - the least he could do is make you feel good about it. I am sure he's not perfect!

Tbh when I am non pregnant and confident in myself body wise, I tend to fancy him more, is that a bit narcissistic of me?
But Spuddy I know what you mean, I'm not exactly horny for him after that comment
It's just a sore point as I know he doesn't like me bigger. Fact. Doesn't put him off sex necessarily but I just know, without this stupid comment. Wasn't necessary at all and didn't need to be said.

And no he's not perfect but I wouldn't dream of pointing out the bits that aren't. Until now!