Christmas was ok, days in between great but because of dhs TOTAL inability to tolerate any kind of additional "stress" there have been moments when it's just been a bit shit.
Xmas day am, dh in a foul mood, I'd not slept due to dd waking me up 3 times in the night, I have a sleep problem very light sleeper and takes me hours to get back off. When she trots in (she's 5) complaining of a tummy ache/nightmare whatever it's me who wakes to sort her out, not dh, he snores through it. I asked him on waking, politely if he could get me a brew, he whinged about being tired himself. i explained I'd had a crap night, actually spent most of it listening to him snoring. he did so, grudgingly, with bad grace.
Arranged to go to my parents for dinner, whcih my mum and dh had agreed to cook. Both f**king control freaks tbh so there was that tension to contend with. Obviously had to get me, dh 2 kids and all the presents for my family packed and in the car and out the door at a reasonable time, cue dh getting stressy and nasty as i was "nagging" apparently. I'd done nearly all the packing and planning etc. on Christmas eve but he still was reluctant to just get a move on and get sorted.
He behaved at parents, as did my mother, sister there too so good dilution. Boxing day and day after good, seeing my friends, he was fine, no stress.
NYE good, people round etc. Today shit, total total shit, he's been vile, prob due to the fact he's back at work tomorrow and is a stress head about it. He's also got absolutely no goddamn common sense but can't tolerate me pointing it out, ever, which makes life f**king tough. Feel like 2012 is going to be another horrible year, me just bottling things and feeling miserable. but anyway, mentioned to mum on Christmas that we both work bloody hard, we have 2 young children and next xmas we'd like to spend it at home, we would see family on boxing day. I suggested to dh about going out for dinner (as if he has to do it it'll just be vile, and I don't want to spend all day in the kitchen, when dh works he works away a lot of the time then is so knackered at the weekends he sleeps a lot so the childcare and running of the house is down to me, plus I work in a highly stressful job that's nearly killing me).
Mum said they'd drive up to see us xmas day afternoon, I said we'd probably not have visitors (last time they came xmas day pm for "a drink and a mince pie" ds was 3 months old and breastfeeding and i loaded and unloaded the dishwasher 4 times whilst they sat on the sofa), i got "the look" from Mother.
If I have much more of dh being like this I'll see 2013 in on my own but if by some miracle it's ok, AIBU to want a quiet low key, hassle free Christmas?? Or am I being selfish?
Sorry for rant..so fed up.