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about cheesecake?

59 replies

RagamuffinAndFidget · 02/01/2012 20:18

This is a bit silly, sorry, but it's really annoying me!

My brother and his girlfriend (one of my good friends) came over on Boxing Day, along with my Mum. We all made a few bits each - she made burgers and a cheesecake, he brought a prawn sharer platter, Mum made a rice salad, I baked some potatoes, made a salad and dressing, laid everything out and we had a buffet for tea. It was all very lovely.

The cheesecake didn't actually get eaten on Boxing Day so I said did they want to take it back. They said they might pop round before going back to Winchester (where she's at University) and pick up half but when I spoke to them around lunchtime on Thursday they were already on the road. I assumed that they didn't want the cheesecake after all, and that there wasn't much point leaving it in the fridge to go off (as an aside, how quickly does cheesecake go off?). So DH and I had some of the cheesecake. And then a bit more. And then a teeny bit more. Then we went to bed and forgot to put it back in the fridge (but to be honest there wasn't much left at all by that point Blush ) so in the morning I put the last, rather soggy looking, bit in the bin.

Cut to today. My brother has just phoned and informed me that they will be popping in on Wednesday to pick up the cheesecake. I said that we had had some of it and then put the last little bit in the bin and he hit the roof. Apparently we should have known they would come and get some, they said they would, and it would obviously have lasted this long (it was made on Christmas Eve). How dare we eat it all, blah blah blah blah.

So, who is BU here? I know it's completely ridiculous to even get so worked up over a fecking cheesecake but he's really annoyed me and obviously I need some MNsnetters to tell me whether my indignation is righteous or not Wink

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FrozenFlowers · 02/01/2012 20:20

I think he's being ridiculous. You offered them the chance to take it back, and they said no, and then they didn't come back for it later either. It's just a bloody cheesecake, it was meant to be eaten!

hellhasnofury · 02/01/2012 20:20

Made on Christmas Eve? So it would be almost two weeks old by Wednesday? YANBU. I would've binned it too.

SkivingAgain · 02/01/2012 20:21

Personally, I wouldn't consider eating a cheesecake over a week old and can't understand why your brother thinks it's such a prize!!

He needs to get a grip Xmas Grin

Catsmamma · 02/01/2012 20:21

just leave some cream cheese on top of the radiator for him....that should be a fine substitute for him by wednesday.

Meglet · 02/01/2012 20:21

YANBU.

They can make / buy another cheesecake. How weird to leave it then expect for it to be collected. I could understand if they'd left a hampers worth of food, but a bit of cheesecake Confused.

Faverolles · 02/01/2012 20:21

Um, it's cheesecake. If he's so desperate for some, come he not buy some/make some more?
Perspective needed here :)

Eglu · 02/01/2012 20:22

He was going to come on Wednesday for cheesecake made almost 2 weeks before. Of course it wouldn't still be nice then.

Even if the cheesecake would have been nice then, he was still unreasonable as they went away without any and you were fair to assume that they didn't want it. If they wanted it that much, why leave it in your fridge for that long? YANBU at all, and I would be asking for an apology.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 02/01/2012 20:22

He is being ridiculous - if it was made on Christmas Eve it would be past its best by next Wednesday. Anyway, they bought it to yours for a party - presumably they ate the salad etc. that you had made. It's like the people who bring wine to parties and then take it back again - rude.

slavetofilofax · 02/01/2012 20:22

It was a cheesecake left at your house. It was fair game.

Your brother sounds slightly odd.

I want cheesecake now.

susiedaisy · 02/01/2012 20:23

YANBU, your brother is being petty!

Notthefullshilling · 02/01/2012 20:23

I would have to say your bro is way off the mark. It was brought for everyone to enjoy so it was by you and DH. I doubt the cheescake would have been in any good form after leaving it in the fridge so it probably had to be consumed.

As a peace offering could you make them a cake or by them something, but this would be you keeping the peace rather than admitting fault.

Bignorkz · 02/01/2012 20:23

Sound like a bit of an over-reaction by your brother to me! Surely he'd have fetched it before now if he was that bothered. I would have ate it as well, assuming he'd bought it for you all to share anyway!

I wouldn't make too much of a big deal over his reaction, just offer to buy him another one if he's that put out and ram it in his face Grin

Pandemoniaa · 02/01/2012 20:24

Is he particularly fond of food poisoning? Because I can see no other reason to want to eat a cheesecake that's been festering kept for a fortnight.

FutureNannyOgg · 02/01/2012 20:24

YANBU. Surely it was made to be eaten, would he have been angry if you had eaten it on Boxing Day when they were there?

Hassled · 02/01/2012 20:25

No cheesecake is going to be at its finest lasting from 24/12 to 4/1. That really is pushing things a bit.

I want cheesecake now. Was it a proper baked one or the cheat/sweetened condensed milk non baked version? I can't decide which I want more.

PuggyMum · 02/01/2012 20:26

YANBU at all! Were you not supposed to have any at all then? This was their contribution to the tea!
And as for saying they'll pick it up on Wednesday that's just ridiculous.
If they wanted it they should have taken it back that day.
Very petty of them x annoying when people do this kind of thing x

FutureNannyOgg · 02/01/2012 20:26

I'm actually impressed it made it to Thursday, I couldn't leave a cheesecake untouched for that long...

Hassled · 02/01/2012 20:26

By prawn sharer platter, do you mean an Iceland thing? What was it actually like?

picnicbasketcase · 02/01/2012 20:27

I wouldn't keep a cheesecake for more than about three days. He's being bloody ridiculous. Buy him one from Sainsburys to make up for it.

LydiaWickham · 02/01/2012 20:29

2 week old cheesecake would be nasty.

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 02/01/2012 20:29

I did offer to give them the money for the ingredients if it was really that big a deal but apparently 'that's not the point' Hmm

What, exactly, 'the point' is he didn't say.

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OlympicEater · 02/01/2012 20:29

He is BVU

Buy a cheesecake mix, make it tonight and leave it to fester next to your boiler til wednesday and then give it to him

Crosshair · 02/01/2012 20:30

Yanbu.

WhereEaglesDare · 02/01/2012 20:30

Buy him another one??? Such a silly man!!!!! And make sure it will be expired by the time he gets it cause the one they brought would be old anyway....

BikingViking · 02/01/2012 20:31

He's your brother so therefore I'm sure the rules are that you can say either "if you're not fast, you're last" or alternatively "if you snooze, you lose the cheesecake "

I would have eaten the cheesecake too Blush actually, now I really want some cheesecake.

It was left at your place, as someone else say, it was fair game, plus it definitely would not have lasted 2 weeks - unless it was pumped full of additives?