... That dh always takes the easy way out

[EllieMG]

Whenever dh looks after our 7mo son so I can go back to bed for an hour, I come back to find he's jiggled him to sleep apparently because he was "tired" despite showing no signs of tiredness with me.

I can't help feeling that this is "cheating".

Anything for a quiet life huh?
Not thay it does ds any favours as it completely mucks up his routine.

Grrrrrrr.

It doesn't matter as long as you get a lie in

Honestly don't sweat the small stuff

You can't make a non tired baby sleep.

What happynews said. Let it go.

What exactly would you rather he did?

Admit it-on some level, you would prefer it if DH was run ragged by DS on his "watch" wouldn't you? What's that all about? If you don't think he is doing enough per se re division of child care-tackle it, but there is no need to get all lemon lipped because he makes it look easy

I agree that your DS is getting to an age that if he doesn't want to sleep he won't. His routine is going to change soon, anyway, with the change in feeding habbits and weaning/getting older.

It's what your DH then spends the time doing, that matters, if he isn't pulling his weight around the house, then deal with that.

well surely an hour has passed and he might now be sleepy?

i agree that it must piss you off, i felt dh did not really pull his weight wiht housework etc and as when he looked after kids that was all he did, i.e. look after kids, he did not get run ragged as he was not doing any house stuff. for example, i work on a tues and he is at home, boht kids at shcool, when i get home, place is a tip, washhing not doen etc, no meal for me, when I get in a t 8.30pm, but he and kids have had ghreat time after school and he has relaxed on his "day off". I have repeatedly explained to him that as the paretn at home that day, he needs to run the house as well as the kids. your husband is not doing anyting that bad, but it does sound as it generally you think he should do more, try to look rationally at who deos what and agree on it. I am still workign on mine, and slowly but surely it is working

god i'd have loved it if DP had spent time just sitting cuddling any of my babies.

his default mode was put baby in a crib/bouncy chair and ignore while he pisses about on his blackberry

Case in point:

DS is 5 months and isn't well. I put him to bed and popped his dummy in; cue the screaming ructions. I tried cuddling him - he screamed louder. I tried leaving him for 5 minutes - he carried on. I just kept rolling him onto his back and popping his dummy back in. This went on for an hour. DP sees how frustrated I'm getting and goes in. Pure silence then ensues. I go in and bloody shitbag DS is lying peacefully on his back, dummy in his mouth, snoring quietly with his hands by his ears. DP is just looking at me rather sheepishly.

I could have killed him. All my effort? Nothing. He goes in there, picks him up, puts him down and he settles for a night of unbroken sleep.

Must ignore the fact that my carving knife is calling my name. Must ignore the fact that my carving knife is calling my name. Must ignore the fact that my carving knife is calling my name.

Twelve, we have nights like that as well.

Hides carving knife

Ha! Brilliant. Thanks for the reality check ladies.
Guess what really gets me is having to be so feckin grateful for him doing anything- I admit I would like him to have to try a bit harder! And I reckon that jiggling is similar to carseat for our boy- you can jiggle him into unconsciousness. Spose that's good though!
Right, whinge over!

My other half is exactly the same, he will just get our 1 year old out of his cot at the first sign of movement for a cuddle!
But he's a lovely dad to our kids, if a bit soft so I don't moan.
Try and be grateful he is helping, so many men are utterly useless when it comes to looking after their own kids!

that your DH can get your baby to sleep!