little girl at 18 film

[bruffin]

Went to see The Girl With a Dragon Tattoo tonight.
Thought the person in front of me was little but when she stood up we saw she was a little girl of 8 or 9 with het parents.
How they got her in I don't know, but the film had so much that I would be uncomfortable my 14 yr old dd seeing.

if we are talking about probablilities here, I find it much more probable that OP saw what she saw correctly

why anyone needs to dissuade her of it, seems strange to me

I also don't get all this speculation that the child might have been older . What a pointless waste of time!

As I said above it is not just the look of the child, it was the body language of the girl and the way "parents" interacted with her etc as she was going down the stairs.
DH and I may have been wrong, but it was not a film I would let a young teen see.

bruffin I was one of the first posters to say she might've been older. Was just raising a possibility.

Personally I don't think that a child seeing a film like that would be sufficiently likely to cause such psychological harm that I'd feel comfortable interfering with another mum's parenting choice. It is not porn, and it is not hitting the child, and frankly I find those points to be much more red herrings than the suggestion that the child might possibly have had a decent reason for being there.

But then, I disagree strongly that children knowing about/ seeing sex is terrible. I was given Our Bodies, Ourselves, with a full frontal picture of a woman masturbating to camera, before I could read. And before you freak out, lots of hippyish parents gave this book to their daughters. It didn't mess me up. It made me very comfortable with my own sexuality and a lot more informed about my body than almost everyone else in my year at school.

The film is not the same as a feminist pro-sex tract - but I think there is just a lot of 'ew, children, sex' about the reactions here.

yonder, just out of interest, have you seen this particular film ?

it has warnings that it includes "sexual brutality"

do you believe it is ok to expose children to that ?

AF no just books so possibly not best placed to comment admittedly - and no, I don't believe it is - but I also think it's not okay to lie to children about Father Christmas and all kinds of other things that I'd get flamed to death for on here.

Sorry, I am just quite suspicious of others whose first instinct is to intervene in others' parenting choices, that's all - although of course I don't know all the circs here.

So would you be comfortable with your 8 YO seeing a woman inserting a dildo up a mans arse while he's tied up and screaming, yonder?

They're not animal-like screams you'd want a child to hear.

The questions an 8 YO would ask about the scene are not things you want someone at such a tender age to have to think about.

I'm surprised you wouldn't want to shield your child from such violence as long as possible.

Father Christmas and scenes of rape and sexual brutality

yup, totally on the same page

and call me a busybody, but I would have had a quiet word myself along the lines of "I think you mustn't have realised what kind of film this was going to be, but is it a good idea for a child to watch scenes like this ?"

you see, my thoughts wouldn't be about whether I might offend the sensibilities of adults who cannot protect their own children < shrug >

I would hope someone would intervene in this case, yonder, I wouldn't give a bollocks if anyone was suspicious about my intentions if I was the one to do it.

Lying about FC, and protecting them from how horrible the world can be until they have the maturity to deal with it, aren't even in the same ballpark.

Thats disgraceful. My 18 year old son see this film with a male and female friend and when he came home said it was very uncomfortable and would never have gone if he had known it was about rape.

I felt a bit conflicted about the male rape scene, appalled at what she was doing at the same time as thinking I could understand why.

He deserved it but didn't deserve it.

I'm not sure how that would play out with the roles reversed and it was a man getting revenge on a woman?

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