Aibu to think that

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Just cos ds who is 4.10 screams his head of about doing something and I have said no that my df should say yes just as he can't stand ds being upset.

This is followed shortly by the accusation that I always upset ds by saying no. Yes df I say no because I am his mother and his demands were unreasonable. And of course I am the worst mother in the world who doesnot look after his dear grandson properly.

Hence a huge row and now df is huffing with me and my dm. After the week I've had this is all I need.

My dh does this because he does what is easy now and doesn't think about the next time. Does my head in.

you are his mum so take responsibility so YDNBU . my son is now doing the playing one parent off the other parent thing annoying to me and dp .stick to your guns

What you let or don't let your son have has fuck all to do with your Dad.

Nobody likes to see children getting upset, but it's not a reason to let them have whatever they like, they get upset at lots of things at 4!

Was he the same with you when you were young?

Or is this more to do with the fact that they were things he wanted your DS to have/do and he's being awkward over you having any kind of control over him? Parents can be like that sometimes.

Remember that he will give you crap in a few years when DS is spoilt and badly behaved because that will be your fault too because you always gave in to him

I am just bitter because FIL thinks DD who is 1 is spoilt and clingy and manipulative,wanker.

Well they know where to look for the people who taught their children how to parent their grandchildren don't they??

He thinks you have a spoilt, clingy and manipulative one YO MrsT?

The clingy is them wanting human contact - how awful of them.

The manipulative is them not being able to communicate using language.

You must be incredibly restrained to be in the same room without clocking him one to hear his judgement on your parenting skills.

My mum is a bit like this. If I say no to one or the other of the boys, she doesn't undermine me or contradict me in front of them, but afterwards she always tells me I'm a mean mummy! No I'm not mum, I have to have a tight rein on the discipline or they'd run rings around me!

Agent he was telling my friends these things at her first birthday party. I told DH what would happen if he called her manipulative again. DH had a word with him. And he thinks I shouldn't have BF so long and that we should stop at one LO. I think he has a PD.

YANBU, my Mum does the same. Constantly tries to undermine me.

Yep my mum too. If I tell them off I'm too harsh, if I don't tell them off I'm too soft.

You can bet whatever stance I take with my children, I should have taken the opposite according to my mother.

Just tell him he had his chance to be the parent he wanted to be and now this is yours.

Df still huffing.

Apparently I was not allowed to cry when he was about when I was ds age.

I am carrying on as normal. Ds needs to know that screaming his head off does not get u what u want. But ds did tell me it was bad behaviour and boys in school who act like he did are bad boys.

Amazing he knows it is wrong but will still do it.