to think this is a bit weird, if not rude?

[Surprisebride]

I'm getting married beginning of Feb this year and am arranging my own Hen night. The plan is to get a minibus to a nearby city for a night out, possibly stay overnight or get minibus to pick us up about 2am to take us home.

So far I have around 11 friends that are definately coming, minibus seats 13. I received a text from one friend today advising me she has invited a friend of hers that I have met once. Ok, great I say, as I got on well with her on this one occasion and my friend deosn't really know any of the others invited.

About 20 minutes later I get another text telling me 'we' really need to sort out how we're getting there and how many rooms we'll need as she has another 6 friends that really want to come

I have no idea who any of these people are, but this apparently is ok as they are 'all really nice people, I wouldn't invite any troublemakers!'

It wouldn't have been quite so bad if she had asked if she could invite some friends to maybe bump up the numbers but before she'd invited them not after! (I would have said no to this anyway as I think 12 is more than enough!)

She finishes with 'It's up to you'. Well obviously, what with i being my Hen night and all.

So, wonderful Mumsnetters, how do I reply?

Oh & yes, it is up to you what to do-it´s your hen night.

I organised my own hennight-probably far too sedate an evening for most, & I´m sure that even my best friend would have organised something that I didn´t really want.

mrsjay, I did mention that in my OP, but surely you'd ask before inviting them?

she has over stepped the mark and rude , why would anybody invite people to a hen party that the hen didnt know , weird

Have you planned something spectacular that your (invited) friend just couldn;t keep to herself - hence now everyone she has spoken to wants to come...

Guess its a big compliment to whatever you have planned that so many people want to come

Bethesba, nothing exciting, just lots of alcohol and dancing at a few bars and clubs

Bathsheba, even, sorry!

Maybe they don't get out much..:-)

Unbelievably rude. Just tell her you don't know them so you don't want them coming.

Just Say No.

And don't use the minibus as an excuse! It wouldn't be that hard for them to arrange their own transport, so make it clear that you don't want them there at all,

She's using you and your hen night to have a night out of her own with her other friends.

If they come 'with' you, don't be surprised if you don't see much of her or any of the other seven random people once you arrive, because they will all be doing their own thing in their own group and you won't get a look in.

Trust me. This happened on my best friend's hen night when she invited a couple of people from work and they invited a couple more. We got off the mini bus and they just disappeared in their own little group until pick-up time. My friend and her mini-bus were just cheap and convenient transport, they weren't interested in celebrating anything with her and couldn't have cared less about showing her so.

Have you responded SupriseBride? Think she's put you in a terrible position but imagine how much worse you'll feel when you're making awkward conversation with 7 randomers (until the drinks kick in! :D )

I would say "look, I'm sure your friends are lovely but I don't feel right having people I don't know on my hen night. Sorry! Next time we all go out we'll arrange to have them along so we can meet."