to not get out of my seat.

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I feel like an episode of Friends bit DH are embroiled in ludicrous feud.

DH commented over dinner that I always pandered to DS2 over his particular choice of spoon, plate etc. said he had me wrapped around his finger, I was a pushover.

We went into the sitting room and I sat on the sofa. DH asked me to move as he likes that end of said sofa.

I refused. He sat on me, still didn't move, tried pulling me off sofa, still didn't move. I put Touch of Frost on and sat on remote. He got up and started to play X box. I turned tv off repeatedly with remote.

He has now gone to sit in other room.

I explained to him that 'after a while he would get the message that I would not be pandering to his peccadilloes'

But I'm a bit bored now

I see the word peccadilloes, and all I can think of is piccallilly. Can you still buy piccalilly? Why does it have such a silly name?

Anyway, YABU. I have my end of the sofa and it makes me want to sob a bit when someone else sits there. Also - a Touch of Frost? Really?

So DS2 gets what he wants but DH can go whistle?

Hmmmm.

See hassled, I know the right punishments to inflict

He just needs to be thankful Diagnosis Murder wasn't on

No rhonda, up until now I have gotten up . Pushover that I am

Si actually it's more 'don't pander to DS2, just me'

There's no reason why your DS shouldn't have the spoon and plate he prefers, but I presume your DH is just using that as an example of how he thinks you are with your DC.

Teaching children they can't always have it their own way, while I wouldn't choose to do it over cutlery and a plate, is totally different to having to compromise with another adult.

I can understand why you'd want to fuck him off for criticising your parenting skills, but you'd probably do better to talk about why he thinks what he does?

Ahhhh.

I admit to being a bit of a Sheldon, I have a "spot" and if anyone else sits in it I stand in front of them until they move.

It's got a great bug hollow shaped like my bum very comfy.

He sat on you?????

Yes but I'm far from delicate.

Ha. Very good

But agent has a point. Do you pander to your DS? Was it really just about the table wear?

Not really. He's 2. The conversation was actually over how I pander far less to Ds2 than I did to DS1 when he was that age. And DS2 is very charming and adept at getting what he wants, rather than tantrums.

There followed (after the sofa-gate) DH saying 'yes, but I've earned the right to be pandered to' .

As opposed to me, whose earned the privilege of pandering