WIBU to not buy this couple a new baby gift...

[Jennyrosity]

...because I don't want them to feel obligated to get us one when our baby arrives in a few weeks?

Reason being that he lost his job a few months ago, and she is on mat leave, so money is tight. It's unlikely we'd hit on something that they desperately want or need - likely to be a cute outfit or toy, rather than an essential - I'm assuming they will already have all of them, and I don't feel I know them well enough to ask if there's anything they'd like.

I'm quite happy to get a gift, but don't want them thinking they then have to reciprocate, as DH and I are fortunate enough to not really have to worry about money.

We've sent a card, but should we get a gift as well? WWYD? In their situation what you prefer?

What about doing something practical for them e.g cook them a nic meal, bake them a cake, get some shopping in for them.

Do you live near to them?

The best gift I had after my first was a piping hot lasagne and a garlic bread being delivered to my door at 6pm one night at the end of the first week (once the euphoria had worn off and tiredness had set in!)
Maybe you could do that?

Cook them a meal, offer to pop in of a morning to catch up over feeds etc, it can be very lonely in the month after everyone stops visiting.

I think there is too much focus on presents and not enough focus on presence if you get me. Are they likely to get you something? If so then I would get them something.

Depending on how good friends they are then why not say up front something like money's a bit tight all round this year, shall we forgo gifts in lieu of spending time together?

I agree cook a big lasagne/casserole anything, i would have traded any of our gifts for someone to bring a meal round

What about an IOU or something similar promising x number of nights babysitting, or whatever you decide. I'm sure someone can come up with some ideas.

John Lewis/Mothercare vouchers? Sleep suits for larger sizes, possibly 6-9 months - always useful.

also agree with the food idea.

Four weeks in and the best present we've had is a babysitting voucher. Far, far better IMHO than another teddy or outfit. Congratulations on your imminent arrival :)

I like the idea of doing something rather than giving something, but we're not that near to them, and I'm 37 weeks myself, so not to up doing much!

Hmmm, I shall give it some thought - thanks for the ideas!

How about finding their nearest chinese / indian taeaway and arranging a delivery to them?

Oooh, clever idea moogster, ta!

ddint someone not long ago post about a company that delivers pre prepared meals, online ordering. Something like that would be brill i would think. x