to not want to cook tomorrow night?

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he phoned about 20 minutes ago and said he's just invited 2 couples plus their 3 children to dinner tomorrow night (new years eve) so that's an extra 7 people. We had planned a quiet night in with TV and lovely snacks.

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and feel nauseous and sort of sea sick most of the time plus feel exhausted and sleepy. I've got no food in so it means a shopping trip and then spending half of tomorrow cooking and getting ready.

AIBU to feel like telling him to sort out the food and entertainment himself and go to bed with a plate of cheese, biscuits and fruit?

Tell him to phone a pizza!

That's what we are doing, and we will be eating leftover mince pies and drinking left over mulled wine. I bought lots to make sure it could reasonably be called leftovers, and therefore be fair game.

YANBU re the cooking... He invited them, he can sort it out. You might have a good evening, though, and going off to bed would be pretty rude IMO. Either cancel it or join in - don't make your guests uncomfortable.

YANBU - make him do it!!! Get him to do a chilli, quick, easy and bloody delicious! Agree with Belle - cancel or join in........but make him do the lions share as he was the one who arranged it

yep, take away is the way forward!

Tomorrow night is not for dinner. It is bouffet night.

There is a thread about Iceland £5 platters

Takeaway. Everyone is sick of party food and leftovers by now.

That's fine - tell him to bring you yours up on a tray first when he's cooked.

Get takeaway and see how you feel. If enjoy yourself great, if you don't then you've got the perfect excuse to bow out for an early night!

YANBU Dh has done sod all to help for xmas, has invited friends over tomorrow which is ok but i have asked him to tell them it won't be full on catering just nibbles. today i have cleaned the house, done the washing and ironing, changed beds and am so seething with resentment that in the whole hols all he has done is run a hoover round on xmas eve and thats only cos I asked him to.

DH has a friend who does this, invites people round to his house and expects his wife to cook. Really annoys me and I have taken to making DH call back and talk to the wife. She has, once, said that she is on a split shift and would really appreciate a rain check. Her DH treats her like she is a bloody servant. And she puts on a great spread when we do go round and he knows she would consider it the height of rudeness not to (she is Japanese and wouldn't dream of treating guests in her home less than very well).

You probably want to knock this attitude on the head before the new baby arrives.

Tell him that as he has invited them he is responsible for everything...food, drink and entertaining.

Just ask him what he is planning to cook for you all

Can you get a takeaway? Explain to the guests that you haven't been feeling well (that will cover pregnancy symptoms if you don't want to tell them). Do make sure they don't feel they are imposing though. Say something like 'Im determined to enjoy new year with you so thought I would save my energy by cheating with the food'.

YANBU id tell him he can cook cheeky sod , or get a take away pizza for everybody , dont do it ,

I would just say "lovely darling, what are you planning on cooking then?"