to think I do have the same virus as the rest of the family

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Because according to dp I can't possibly as am still able to look after the children. That would be because there is no one else to not because every joint in my body doesn't ache or my throat have razor blades in. Of course after needing gp visits for complications ds1 and 2 now have energy and at 3 and 18mnths need supervising at least a little.

Oh, I'm so sorry OP. My DH has the ability to just drop everything when he feels unwell, without feeling an ounce of guilt or responsibility.
Is there someone who can come and help out?

Grandma went home yesterday, before I felt really rough but did online shop which came last night so have no need to go out before new year. My parents are not very helpful but additionally my dad only has 25% lung function so cannot risk passing onto him, as ds2 had mild broncholitis and ds1 has tonsilitis. To be fair dp is ill and has mainly slept and sweated over past few days I just wish he would acknowledge I am too.

Thanks for the sympathy,

Yep,sounds fairly typical to me.
Man goes to bed, you have to struggle on feeling ill. If he acknowledges that you are ill too he has to help or have a guilty conscience,so he chooses to pretend you're fine.
You have my sympathy,I've been there!

ah well, you see, if he accepts that you have the same bug as him, then he has to accept that if you are able to force one foot in front of the other then so can he.

So in order for him to justify taking to his bed - he has to convince himself that you don't have what he's got, that he is suffering more than you and that you have something minor.

take yourself to bed and let him get on with it

When DS was a newborn, and I was days post cs I got a bad cold and cough, which I could take nothing for as I was breastfeeding. I also couldn't cough effectively because of the cs, so it became a chest infection and I was on anti biootics which gave me badly upset stomach. You can probably imagine how rough I felt.

DH also caught the cough and cold and took to his bed for a week. I carried on breastfeeding, nappy changing, cooking, etc. one week post cs, with a chest infection and the runs. Apparently DH was more ill than me - he could tell because my cough didn't sound as bad as his

Five years later, I still haven't forgiven him for that.

Of course you can't be as sick as him, you are a WOMAN! He is just a lowly. Man who will always, without fail, be sicker than you. That's just the way it is.

And if you get sick when he is not sick, then of course, it will be a bit like the time when he was sick with almost exactly the same symptoms, but his were worse.

Thats always how it works, isn't it?

Sorry for you OP, hope you get well soon.

oh kickingking that's dreadful, god they are good at ignoring inconvienient truths.
Well I went to bed for an hour when he got up as he said he felt like a walk into town because he needed some ink, it's a fifteen minute walk so I figureded he was well enough for childcare. Unfortunately ds1 let ds2 into our bed room ( teeny masionette not much chance of hiding up) and he proceeded to climb on me to crys of boob, boob. Then ds1 bumped his head so came for a hug and I admitted defeat. Am supervising proceddings from sofa as ds's seem not to need me if am actually in the room. Have remembered why I usually leave flat or get dp to take kids out when I have kid free time.

Thanks for the sympathy, kids have bounced back after 48hrs so hopeful I will be same. Really am annoyed as one of my gifts from dm is vouchers for local yarn shop and I had planned a jaunt to stroke yarn I normally consider too expensive to buy