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AIBU?

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AIBU to make OH suffer...

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CurlyJims · 29/12/2011 19:05

ok, maybe tmi but two days ago I true to use the toilet, leaving the 4DC with OH in the living room, the lock on the door is bust and he thought it was extremely funny to keep sending the kids in to tell tales and ask irrelevant questions. This infuriated me that I couldn't even be given enough privacy to use the loo - normally I can't leave all the kids in the other room unattended due to having ten week old baby and dog and cat and jealousy issues.

So anyway (sorry this is taking so long) I left the bathroom, didn't have the opportunity to relieve myself and upon return to the living room OH was ROFL- he refused to understand why I was so annoyed. I said to him (knowing full well that he can't bear strong smells) that he who laughs last laughs longest.

So now I'm sitting here with really bad wind, as a result of not being able o use the loo and he is heaving and begging me to 'hold my farts in',

AIBU in thinking that I'm not being unreasonable...?!!!

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CurlyJims · 29/12/2011 19:43

I only normally need to go once or twice a week and because I suffer from constipation it normally has to be when I have the urge or nothing comes out, so I don't get belly aches or suffer any illness from not going - aside from bad wind, I don't think I'm being unreasonable by allowing OH to suffer this seeing as I never get two minutes to myself without himncomplaining that he can't watch the kids! Who btw are all under 8, and would refuse to stay in the bathroom with me but see no problem in constantly walking in to tell me tales and expect me to sort out their quibbles which normally involve the 3yo trying to feed the 10wk old food or the eldest two hitting each other over the head with stuff! Don't see how it unreasonable to allow OH to suffer consequences of not being willing to supervise kids for 5-10 mins :-)

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CurlyJims · 29/12/2011 19:46

Yes the freak who prefers the end of the bed:-)

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scuzy · 29/12/2011 19:46

silliest thread ever read on here. just go to the toilet ffs!

MrsMcEnroe · 29/12/2011 19:46

The poo troll????? Oooh someone tell me more please!

Chubfuddler · 29/12/2011 19:49

Why doesn't your bathroom door have a lock? Why can't you say "I am on the loo GET OUT" to the marauding children? Why does your husband think this funny?

So many questions.

HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 29/12/2011 19:52

Get a new lock on the bloody door, woman! And sort out that useless person. Can't watch his own children. pah.

Backtobedlam · 29/12/2011 19:52

Just take the 10 wk old in with you and leave the door open so others can wonder in and out as needed. That way you will also get your own back on OH at the same time.

toddlerama · 29/12/2011 19:52

All hail the poo troll!

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CurlyJims · 29/12/2011 19:55

The kids burst the lock o the door by constantly seining on the handle, that's exactly what I said to them, with the result of stiffled giggles coming from the living room and himntelling the kids to 'go ask mummy'... Have no idea what was so hilarious about this, particularly when he knows he can't stand the smell of farts and that if I do not go I get bad wind...!

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Chubfuddler · 29/12/2011 19:57

You need a bolt on the inside. Or to control your children properly. You can choose.

HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 29/12/2011 20:00

Look. Just get a very secure lock on the door or fit a door that has a key if you have to. go to the loo when you need to go. Yell at the kids to get the hell out in the meantime or announce it when you are going! "I am going to the toilet. NOBODY is to come in for ANY reason. Anyone who does will be sent straight to bed/lose pocket money/lose a treat/whatever works. And mean it. And tell your partner to grow the fuck up.

It is really disrespectful of him to try to make your children enter the toilet when he knows you are using it, but you need to deal with him and with the children.

And for the love of god, woman, just go and have a bloody shit.

MrsMcEnroe · 29/12/2011 20:06

GypsyMoth · 29/12/2011 20:11

Your children sound a nightmare, your partner not much better.....why dint you take control if your life?

Mumsnet seems to be full of limp, weak women at the moment! With the men walking all over them. You dont get a medal for all this you know!

littlemisssarcastic · 29/12/2011 20:16

I'd be mighty pissed off at my OH if he did this. You suffer from constipation...not good, you leave your DC with a responsible adult when you need to go, and he thinks it is hilarious to send the DC in to annoy you when you are trying to go to the toilet FFS!!!!

Is your OH aware of the problems you have going for a poo?

If he is, then what an insensitive fucker!!

For some people who find it difficult to 'go', the distraction of children running in and out of the bathroom is often enough to make it virtually impossible to have a shit.

Xenia · 29/12/2011 20:31

Real women fit their own locks. Go out tomorrow and buy a bolt and fit it. It will take you less than 10 minutes.

ballstoit · 29/12/2011 20:35

YABU, because;

You both need to grow up.

You need to improve your diet or see the doctor.

If you can't leave your DC for long enough to have a poo you need to sort your pareting out.

Steph260311 · 29/12/2011 20:45

YANBU - I don't think it's an unreasonable request to be able to have a poo in peace. Your OH sounds disrespectful and if he knows what happens when you can't go when you need to it serves him right that he has to put up with a few farts!

Feminine · 29/12/2011 20:50

your Dh is 15 right?

I am actually shocked an adult would do this, especially to his partner.

Go poo!

littlemisssarcastic · 29/12/2011 21:49

ballstoit I'm a little confused as to why you are putting the blame mainly at the OP's door?

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CurlyJims · 30/12/2011 00:06

Ballstoit, no matter how good or bad my parenting is I don't think it is appropriate to leave a 10wk old baby alone with 3 other under 8s and a cat and a dog, it only takes a second for an accident to occur- children walking across the room with pencils in their hands, toddlers thinking it's ok to share ice-cream with the baby, perhaps one of the others putting a blanket on him and it covering his head... Anything could happen...! And considering I left them with their dad I didn't think it was unreasonable to expect a bit of privacy!!!

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Feminine · 30/12/2011 02:19

Put the baby in his bouncy chair, and drag him in with you...

facing the other way!

1Catherine1 · 30/12/2011 02:32

Tell the eldest 3 children that if they don't stay downstairs then you'll phone Santa and tell him to come and collect all their presents... Take the baby with you in a bouncy chair.

Tell your OH that he is a disrespectful little child who needs to grow up.

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