To ask the rules on sharing christmas gifts

[Molehillmountain]

This is not of earth shattering importance so sorry for that, but I was a bit surprised to find my Christmas puzzle book open and the puzzle I'd started before I popped to the shops finished off for me. And conversely, dbil opened box of chocs when all of us together and only offered to dw. I think my irk is more to do with four days in close proximity with very little to worry about thanks to fantastic mil looking after us and we're home tomorrow, but Aibu to think you don't use others gifts without asking or consume without sharing?

then it'll be "come back puzzle finishing bil all is forgiven!"

hmmmmm puzzles are definitely not for sharing

OTOH, how rude to not offer chocolates around.

I'd have said "Can I have one?"

I am stewing! Mn is my strategy for keeping the family harmony! He is prone to non sharing behaviour although the puzzle is a first. I am aware that I need to let it go...and breathe. Naturally, I am perfect

Rip out the page and give it to BIL to keep.
Chocolate is just plain rude

Other people's puzzle books are a 'no go' unless they have been abandoned on the coffee table for a week. Chocolate and wine must be shared. Guests should offer to help with the washing up, should be tidy and should strip their bed linen if their hosts want them to. Anything broken should be replaced, guests should turn up with wine. If house sitting, guests should leave a supply of bread and milk so their hosts can have a drink when they return.

Do I have it all covered?

Break it up... and redo it!

Very comprehensive peaceofcake! I will print out and pin up. Or perhaps just feel better that I wasn't being unreasonable...this time!

Elizabeth-jigsaws I think have a different etiquette. If done on dining room or other communal table, they are a communal activity. I guess I might hold back on the last few pieces though. This was a word search (not brain of Britain stuff but I'd been doing it with dd). Anyhow...to say more would be to appear preoccupied by the whole petty business

I have absentmindedly done a bit of my Mum's puzzles when I have popped in there for a coffee before......I don't know if yabu but if yanbu then that means I am at Mum's and perhaps she is secretly seething at me as well!!!

I don't think it's that big a deal however I am clearly biased.....

the rule is that the reciever opens the gift and offers gift round.