Thats it really. I have two dd's aged 5 and 14months. I live with my fiancé, his mum and his brother and have done so for the past 4 and bit years. It was supposed to be short term but now it seems like my oh's got it comfortable and I can't see it changing anytime soon. We do pay rent to stay there and we also do our own food shop, cleaning, cooking etc.
I find it really hard not to have my own space, for myself and the children. Even down to things like I don't have anywhere to put my clothes so I literally have 1 drawer and my car boot, same for my dd's things. My oh works full time so it's usually just me, my youngest dd and my mil at home and I find it really hard just to get on and do things. I spend most of my day in my oh's bedroom avoiding her. We get on ok but she's very interfering, controlling and nosey and I'm finding it hard to be treated like a child every time I want to leave the house (she constantly asks where I'm going, who with and what time I'll be back!)
My oh and I can't have any privacy, when it comes to conversations or intimacy and it's really driving a wedge between us. I just know that if I say anything against his mum to him he will have a go at me. I have actually raised it to him before and it ended up with him calling me ungrateful and kicking me out with my then 4 year old and 2 month old dd's in the middle of the night.
Ok, so thanks if you've got this far!
So what I want to know is... Aibu and being an ungrateful cow or is my oh bu, expecting us to live this way when we can afford to live elsewhere.