I might be skinny but I'm not a man!

[ThePhantomPlopper]

So fuck off with your - you're not a REAL woman unless you have 'curves'.

And my manly 28B tits breastfed very well thank you.

AIBU to suggest that weight related remarks can be offensive to the "skinny bloke like women too?" (yes that was how she described anyone under a size 10)

You have to admit though women without a good set of breast are not very feminine?

People without a good set of brain are not very bright, that's for sure.

igotowork, so I'm defined by me breasts?! For real?!! Thankfully normal people define me by my brain and my attitude. And I have to say that yours sucks!

my even. I sounded like a chavy teenager!!

Igo I have 'a good set of breasts' much preferred them smaller and never felt less feminine

fuzzy pay no attention. He is trolling all over the boards at the moment. It's a pity they have internet access in lorries these days.

BTW do stop having complan to drink if it's just to make other people stop commenting on your weight. If you eat healthily, what needs to change is other people being rude to you, not your body. I have had a lot of comments of this kind in the past, sometimes dressed up as concern, and I usually say "luckily it's no one else's business what size I am" or "my doctor is quite happy with my weight thanks".

Igo am I not feminine then? Strange, because last time I checked I was 100% a woman.

I worry about my how my dd will feel when she grows up. She is already a complete beanpole and going by the build of both me and her father she will be a complete stick. A very attractive one though!

I am doing a college course atm that has an element where we have to learn about body shapes. I was made to stand up in front of the class while the (very very overweight) teacher discussed my 'lack of curves' and 'stick-like' appearance. I felt fucking awful to be honest.

That's so rude. My BMI is NORMAL - 20/21 but I get comments thrown at me all the time. I find it really irritating, especially when comments are always made about the amount I eat. People always say that I'm not eating anything, even if I have the same amount or more food on my plate than they do.

It really bugs me because, as another poster said, if I was to say "you eat so much, no wonder you're so fat" how would that go down?

I don't think my friends are fat BTW

Look all women are beautiful, just some more than others!!!

I totally agree. I'm normally (I'm 35 weeks pregnant, and put on nearly 3st so far) a size 6-8 and 5ft tall with a baby face. People always assume I'm much younger than I am. I often get talked to / treated like I'm a child then when people realise I'm older I get well meaning but actually quite offensive comments about my appearance.
I'm even considering trying to keep a bit of pregnancy weight and very hopefully my now much bigger boobs. I do feel a little more feminine now I'm a little squidgy round the edges. But I still doubt I'll be able to shift the complex I have about looking so young.
Just reading this back. I don't mean it as a stealth boast. Looking like a teenager is not as great as it may seem. I'd much rather look my age.

34B is a lovely size, I used to be 32/34B/C and I'd much rather have boobs like that and be slim again than 36C/D and overweight now. They were still apple sized and sticky-outy - more like Galia melons now...I don't like bigger boobs, just find them cumbersome.

Dozy I felt the same as you for YEARS but now I am 36 it is brilliant. Suddenly everyone is amazed by my youthful looks in a good way

Dressinggown you should complain about that college tutor No one should have their body criticised publicly like that. I am sure the tutor could have described various body types without making personal comments about anyone.

people who call fat curvy women real women do so to make the big woman feel good, they don't mean to slight skinny ones.

I think.

What annoyed me most about the tutor is that she didn't make anyone who was overweight stand up even though we were discussing that body type too. It is like it is okay to make fun of skinny people.

Igo nobody is taking the bait here so you may as well bugger off somewhere else.

Thank you lady, it tastes awful too! you're right about it being other people's attitudes. And it's usually those who are insecure in themselves who feel the need to comment on others.

It's definitely very insensitive to make a point on someone's weight, whether it's large or small.

However, I think there must be some recognition of the fact that thin is very much seen as the ideal in our society. Fat people are excluded in many ways and made to feel stupid, unhealthy, lazy etc, while slim/thin people are lauded for their ability to stay that way.

Nasty comments are nasty, but I rather feel the majority would much rather be slim than overweight.

I agree that comments on weight are nasty either way Sally, but do think thin people are excluded as much as the overweight. You are right that fat people are often made to feel stupid, unhealthy, lazy but thin people are made to feel stupid, vain, unhealthy, obsessive and neurotic just as much. So no-one wins really.

It is sad that we even define womens value in terms of their body shape. Who cares what size someones boobs or bums are it would be nice if society allowed us to be defined by something more than our ability to be attractive.

im 5ft 6 long and skinny and have had people walk up to me and say god i hate you cos your skinny, i dont walk up to fat people and say god i hate you cos your fat, and my shape is all genetic lots of tall skinnys in our family my youngest son is tall and skinny and his daughter is taking after him, and i eat very well just cant put on any wheight have always had small boobs (except when breastfeeding), no hips and theres nothing i can do about it so i dont let peoples comments get to me, i usually say the daft things like need to stick me arms out sideways going over drains before they do seems to fend off the worst of the comments,

and women shape desirability has changed over time, victorian was 18 inch waist, pushed out boobs and larger hips, the twenties long straight and no shape was popular, the fifties the curvy woman was it Marylin Monroe was a size 16, and now the victoria beckhams are giving girls a very unhealthy self image

I don't think it's going to change anytime soon. Some days I look at my beautiful DC and worry about what impact it will have in them in the future. All we can do is bring them up with a healthy attitude, mentally as well as physically.