to be disappointed in DP?

[JeewizzJen]

DP is great in so many ways but he pretty much never gets up early with my very early riser DS (6mo). Today is my birthday, and the only present I asked for was a lie in. When DS woke at 5am I got up. DP said he'd be down shortly if he didn't fall back to sleep. Its now nearly 8am. AIBU to feel really disappointed he couldn't do this one little thing, this once?

Why did you get up?

I'm breastfeeding, so I had to do that bit.

Why didn't you dig him in the ribs at 5am or take DS into bed with you? I guess that he thought that you had changed your mind.

Sorry-cross posted. You could have got him up to bring DS in and take him back.

Shouldn't have got up.

You should have woken him up and reminded him of your present and stayed put.

Stop playing the martyr and go and get him up now FFS!

So go back to bed now then.

Happy birthday JeeWizz

If it was me I'd be very mature and sulk all day!

Pull baby into bed with you, feed. Poke husband and ask them to do the nappy change while you go to the loo.
Get back into bed saying 'thanks for the lie in darling, I'll be down around 8'. Go to sleep.

well in that case why didn't you BF and then hand him over with a "I think it's your turn now" and a smile and go back to sleep?

When Ds wakes for 5am feed in future, take him into your bed and feed him there. Then hand him over and snuggle down!

He already sleeps with us and I couldn't, as usual, get him to sleep any longer. Yrs, I could have nudged DP and asked him to get up but I had hoped just for once I might get treated and not have to ask. Ho hum, martyr I am I guess!

He's just got up now, said sorry.

I've fallen into this martyr trap but as people have said to you-just tell him what you need eg wake him up after bf and say "here you go my birthday lie in time!".

Based on experience my DH is well meaning but can be a bit crap like this, going back to sleep when he's said he'll get up- that said with a nudge he's more than happy to do his share!

Ironically since I've started telling DH what I need him to do we are a lot happier. I think he feels more valued/part of it cause he knows what he can do. men like to be able to solve things Sometimes women need to get over that "guilt" feeling, he's your partner and wants to help.

So YANBU for wanting a lie but YABU for not waking DP up after he offered to do it.

Isn't 5am a night feed rather than a wake up call?

I'm afraid I agree about you being a martyr. I would be telling my dh that since he didn't get up this morning that your lie in would now be on sat/sun or when ever suits you. He should be doing his fair share, even if you are on mat leave he could do one day at the weekend. Stand up for yourself.

This sort of came up when dealing with teenage sons.

Don't 'could you' or ' it would be nice if' or ' I could do with a hand with'.

Say 'today, before you go to blah clean out the inside of the car' or 'empty the dishwasher' or 'empty the washing machine and put them in the drier for 20 minutes on high'.

Same should apply at school - teacher must just give instruction, not waffle.

Otherwise their simple brains do not compute.

This sort of THING came up -blasted new laptop keyboard plays tricks all the time.