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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think I really don't need to decide now!

18 replies

sleepsforwimps2010 · 28/12/2011 22:21

currently stuck in the middle of gran war, were expecting dc2 in June and my mum and dps mum are already bickering about who will look after ds while im in labour..... firstly thanks for the offer, we obviously will need a baby sitter, but really its 6 months away and how can I know that now! I've tried offering one on call for day and the other on call at night. but which everyone it isn't will be pissed! come on were all excited but lets chill shall we!!

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thisisyesterday · 28/12/2011 22:22

who is closest?

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sleepsforwimps2010 · 28/12/2011 22:25

not alot in it really, both about 20 mins.

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PurplePidjInAPearTree · 28/12/2011 22:25

Tell them you'll be leaving him with a proper responsible adult which clearly neither of them is due to the competitive tantrumming!

That should buy you a clear couple of weeks while they strop off

breatheslowly · 28/12/2011 22:29

Can't they do it together?

breatheslowly · 28/12/2011 22:30

At your house.

AnotherMincepie · 28/12/2011 22:30

Tell them when you've decided who'll be babysitting they'll be the first to know :o

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sleepsforwimps2010 · 28/12/2011 22:52

I would suggest they do it together but then someone wont have won..... and that will never do;-)

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geekette · 29/12/2011 21:02

Sign on Sil or Bil or sis or bro or one of the GD instead?
That should diffuse it instantly.

anyway, you decide. not them.

Haziedoll · 29/12/2011 21:06

I would tell them both that they are adding to your stress which is very immature of them.

Get them to do a 10 minute presentation on "why I'm a great gran" and pick the person with the best pitch.

Eglu · 29/12/2011 21:06

How old are they, 5?

I would tell them to grow up, it's not a frigging competition.

breatheslowly · 29/12/2011 21:30

Sell it off to the highest bidder and put the cash away for your DC.

JustHecate · 29/12/2011 21:31

Tell them that you will call whoever proves themselves to be the calmest and most reasonable and most considerate to you over the next six months!

startail · 29/12/2011 21:33

DD2 was born at home while DD1 slept. I never got round to ringing my baby sitter

Dozer · 29/12/2011 21:36

Bear in mind that you may be in hospital a while before and / or after the birth, hopefully not, but best to plan. But whatever happens there is lots they can both do, you could line them both up to do some childcare for DC1 around the time you're due, before and after birth, so they both get a turn and you get time to recover and spend with DC2. Eg alternate days or afternoons.

Dozer · 29/12/2011 21:37

Also, if one or both of them work, find out whose employer is more flexible about the time off!

GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 29/12/2011 21:38

Luckily I don't have to worry about this as DH's entire huge family have pissed off elsewhere for the fortnight surrounding my due date so it only leaves my mum, who doesn't drive...

marriedandwreathedinholly · 29/12/2011 21:46

As you have no idea of the date on which the baby will be born at this stage put them on duty - 48 hours on/48 hours off from two weeks before the due date. No decision it will be whoever happens to be on duty at the time.

coronet · 29/12/2011 21:55

There is an etiquette about this according to my MIL (m to 4 boys and 2 girls), and the mother of the mother takes precedence. So on that basis, I would have your mum as the main contact and your MIL as backup.

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