re my MIL. I know I am but don't care.

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Trust me when I say my MIL is a nasty old cow who has made dig after dig to me over the years, and is really just so mean to DH. I have never said anything back though I keep saying that 'next time' I will -then wimp out every time next time comes.

Anyway, she clearly favours BIL over DH, everyone knows it, and she is really cruel about it.

The other day she put on facebook a picture of her and BIL with the caption 'me and my favourite son' which wouldn't be so offensive if it wasn't for all the background history and blatant favouring of BIL, and it wound me up so much that I have just put up as my facebook status that 'DS enjoyed making cakes with his favourite grandma (my DM) today'. So immature but HA it feels so good! (MIL never visits DS anyway). Preparing for a lynching!

My mil is truly awful & the favouritism she displays is really upsetting. After a final tongue lashing from her in summer (which insulted both me & my own brothers/sisters and made me cry-after I left (not in front of her, but she realised what she had done) I've given up on her. My poor dh has to visit her on his own, but he accepts my position. I feel sorry that he has such a crap mother. Rant over- but I do like your fb status=your true friends will prob guess why you have put up this status & won't be judgemental.btw my children are all over aged 18 now & can't be bothered with her-she was completely indifferent to them and I feel that she has reaped what she has sown.

What a bitch. That comment alone would be enough for me to delete her.

My MIL favours my husband.

She just had Dh & a daughter. Her daughter (SIL) is aware of the favouritism and even said to me once that she was almost glad she had no children as they'd be left out because of our children.

Dh never encourages the favouritism - he never visits, never thinks his mum might like something when he's shopping and never even picks her gifts... it's all me. So I feel for SIL.

Your BIL may feel the same??

I Divorced my MIL today...no more phone-calls at the crack of dawn, no more random 'popping-in' on the day DH is due back from work (after weeks of no contact when it's just DCs and I) no more royal summons to attend whatever she-who-must-be-obeyed decrees, and it feels G O O D

Comes on the back of years last few weeks of emotional fuckwickery on her behalf. DH broke the news to her earlier, SIL (all of them) feel the same way...IANBU.

I can breathe at last.

(and before you feel sorry for MIL, she indirectly caused a house-fire, much heartache, and was 200 miles away with her PFB when her DGC3 was in hospital on Christmas Eve AND Christmas day)

YANBU.

Fairhaired - The favourite son comment or the 'I need something to look forward to' comment?

BIL just LOVES it and uses the dysfunctional power dynamics to throw his weight around in DH's family. I asserted myself with him once after he had been horrible to DH and received a blanket response of annoyance from all of the family!

Don't see them much anyway, they live on the other side of the country.

Do you think I should just unfriend her or would that cause more problems than it's worth/let her see that she's got to me?

Goodness me! My MIL's a bit of a whingeing old bag dear but she has only just learnt to use a mobile phone. Got one on Tuesday . Face book - my teenagers are on face book! I think the lot of you need to grow old up.

Sorry that my MIL's technical prowess is so offensive to you, marriedinwhite

YANBU.

But if BIL is her favourite son, she probably won´t care that your mum is the favourite GM.

She´ll be hoping for GC from her favourite son.

The only way she´ll "learn" is if they don´t favour her!

How does your husband feel about it all?

Hi diddl, yes you're right, don't think she's bothered! Hence the 'I need something to look forward to' re BIL's wedding which isn't even booked, forgetting her GC is very nearly due! She didn't bother coming to our wedding, we hadn't fallen out or anything, she just couldn't get the time off work (??) DH is just resigned to it, he wants us to just forget about her.

Might be wrong but think there's an option on fb to block certain facebook 'friends' from seeing your statuses and delete them from your newsfeed. that way if you ever wanted to see her fb page you could but she couldn't see yours... Tell me if I'm wrong about this.

Ou think she is aware of what she's doing?

"DH is just resigned to it, he wants us to just forget about her."

Sounds like a good idea.

My husband is an only child & I guess his parents just about worship the ground he walks on.

Not that interested in their only GC, though

It was meant tongue in cheek OP. Not to cause offence. Just trying to highlight the negative side of the internet and facebook. If they weren't there it wouldn't be so easy to offend. Enough said I think. No offence was meant. I'm very sorry if you and your dh have been hurt. No mother should hurt her children on purpose although I suppose we all do it inadvertently from time to time. Especiall with teenagers in the house.

I'm not on facebook by the way, or Linkedin, or Twitter, etc. My parents are heading towards 80 and I just can't imagine one's parents being on facebook but I guess some of you have parents who are younger than me.

The irony is that is when things go wrong for MIL, her 'blue eyed' boy will not be there for her. I have seen this so many times;the favourite child always let the parents down and the parents then turn to the child that they do not favour.
Why do people do this ffs.?

She didn't come to your wedding?!

Until the prodigal returns.