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to think this is a bit off?

34 replies

giveyourselfashiny · 26/12/2011 15:06

Just had some family friends over who were really excited to show me a calendar that their dil made them with various photographs in it. I opened it and thought a pic looked familiar then another then another and then clicked that out of the 13 photos 7 were pics I had taken. 2 of the photos were ones I had taken of the couple on their anniversary and had blown up and framed for them as a Christmas present. The dil had passed off the album as ' her token to show them how special they are and what an inspiration their marriage is. But I was the one who took the sodding photos! I then hand them our present and have to explain that I hadn't stolen the dils photos.

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roundcornsilkvirgin · 26/12/2011 15:08

how did the DIL get hold of your photos?

troisgarcons · 26/12/2011 15:10

I don't see why who took the photos affects the sentiments behind "how special they are and what an inspiration their marriage is""

giveyourselfashiny · 26/12/2011 15:13

The dil had to borrow dhs laptop beginning of the month, I'm guessing she took the photos then, but didn't tell me or him.

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FrozenChocolate · 26/12/2011 15:16

So she snooped on your laptop.

Not good.

Crabapple99 · 26/12/2011 15:19

Agreed that she cetainly shouldn't have taken them without asking, and you do need to speak to her about that, but otherwise, what a lovely compliment on your photography skills! no one would do that with photos I'd taken!

OldLadyKnowsSantaClaus · 26/12/2011 15:20

She's breached your copyright.

amerryscot · 26/12/2011 15:21

She did breach your copyright, but I think you should feel flattered.

yellowraincoat · 26/12/2011 15:22

That would annoy me too.

FrozenChocolate · 26/12/2011 15:22

Actually that would really piss me off. You do her a favour and she has a nosey at your private stuff and nicks it...

LynetteScavo · 26/12/2011 15:28

She stole photos off your laptop. That is more than a bit off. Is she wanted them she should have asked you first.

theincredibequeenofwands · 26/12/2011 15:29

Oooooo, stealing pictures from someone's laptop really isn't on!!

Don't lend it to her again!

troisgarcons · 26/12/2011 15:30

If you lend someone your laptop then expect people to go through files - people are nosey.

yellowraincoat · 26/12/2011 15:31

Wow, really, troisgarcons? I would never expect people to do that and I would never do it to anyone.

TheSecondComing · 26/12/2011 15:33

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troisgarcons · 26/12/2011 15:33

I wouldnt lend out something like a laptop or PC or even a phone - but that because,simply,I've seen the fuss and bother teenagers seem to cause by getting hold of photos etc -call me a jaundiced cynic in such matters.

troisgarcons · 26/12/2011 15:35

I'm not buying into this either - come to think of it - would you really lend something out that holds confidential correspondence, data files etc? Even when I pass on my PC (I dont like lappies) to one of the kids,I have it profesionally wiped.Why? because their mates are nosey little feckers.

giveyourselfashiny · 26/12/2011 15:39

Of course we would lend her something, dh has been ' in' the family for over 30 yrs, and there was nothing for me to think they would nick anything, they were going away for a weekend and wanted to be able to let the miss watch dvds etc if the weather wad bad, we were meant to lend them an in car Dvd player but couldn't find the battery so lent them the lap top.

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yellowraincoat · 26/12/2011 15:39

I've lent my laptop to people loads of times.

giveyourselfashiny · 26/12/2011 15:40

Kids not miss

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captainmummy · 26/12/2011 15:44

OMG - i was given a computer by a friend and when i looked to see if there were any files i could delete (to make it run faster) i came across loads of photos of them at parties, on hols etc. I did think about doing the picture-blown-up-onto-canvas for them, and i assumed they already have the photos stored somewhere. Would i be in breach of their copyright then?

etJeviensEntretesReindeers · 26/12/2011 15:44

Oh that's horrible, I would feel really betrayed. How did the couple respond to your explanation?

Will you confront the person who took your photographs without permission?

How bloody sneaky. I'd find it hard to forgive.

I've lent my closest friend/sort of partner my old phone for a few weeks as he's gone away and had to give his back as it was on a contract. It was an emergency, and before I gave it to him I went home, charged it, and wiped any messages I didn't want him to see, not because I thought he would necessarily look, but because I didn't want him to be hurt by anything I might have written in haste (my drafts file is legendary) or to think badly of me for my ridiculous mutterings.

I don't know if he has looked in these parts of the phone - I guess everything in the inbox is very easily seen as he will be using it as his own. I left a whole lot on there as I was pushed for time, but most of it was between me and him anyway so he'd already seen it.

My point is, you have to assume responsibility for your own property and privacy, whoever you lend something to, but that goes both ways and they have to assume they don't have permission to look at or take your stuff.

I'd be having proper words with this person.

OldLadyKnowsSantaClaus · 26/12/2011 15:55

TSC, copyright of a photo resides with the photographer, not the subject. And yes, it is theft, albeit not one in which the criminal justice system would (or should) show much interest.

yellowraincoat · 26/12/2011 16:00

captainmummy, I wouldn't worry about the copyright so much as it's just WEIRD. Why would you look through someone else's photos? People who do this have mega issues with boundaries.

TheSecondComing · 26/12/2011 16:01

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JenniferEight · 26/12/2011 16:29

Would you not care if it was a spoiler for your own carefully planned present to the same people, TSC?

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