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AIBU?

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Original poster

To send a friend a birthday present and not be invited out for drinks???

14 replies

tiredmummyof4 · 26/12/2011 14:21

It was friends birthday last week and we were away, when got back I went round with a present that she seemed over the top excited to recieve. Then found out later in the week that shed gone out for drinks for her birthday and we hadn't been invited. Feel a right idiot to have sent her a pressie now. AIBU as we away, she could have asked knowing we couldn't come????

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roundcornsilkvirgin · 26/12/2011 14:25

but weren't you away anyway?

Cinderfella · 26/12/2011 14:25

YABU

You chose to buy her a present that doesn't mean that you should recieve an invite.

My best friend bought me a lovely gift for my birthday however she wasn't around so I went out for a meal with other friends. We celebrated with a drink another time.

RealiTreeCoveredInTinsel · 26/12/2011 14:26

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TheMonster · 26/12/2011 14:28

if she knew you were away she might not have bothered to invite you.

NatashaBee · 26/12/2011 14:30

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Trills · 26/12/2011 14:31

I don't understand how you think you could be being unreasonable.

Not being invited isn't something you do, it's something that happens to you, so how could you be unreasonable or unreasonable?

catsareevil · 26/12/2011 14:39

Why would she invite you if you were not going to be able to go?

lisaro · 26/12/2011 16:27

How OLD are you? You were away FFS!

squeakytoy · 26/12/2011 16:47

Of course you are being pathetically unreasonable. You. were. away.

Weird.

EricNordmanfirandMistletoe · 26/12/2011 16:47

Did she know you were away?

LoopyLoopsWoopDeWoops · 26/12/2011 16:49

Love your unfaltering dedication to the AIBU purist movement trills! :)

Original poster

tiredmummyof4 · 26/12/2011 16:52

She didnt know I was away. Thanks all youve given me a better perspective on it

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squeakytoy · 26/12/2011 16:56

You are not actually making much sense.

Either you took the birthday present round, or you sent it?

You were away on her birthday, and you went round AFTER her birthday with the present,and then found out she had gone out on her birthday?

You also say "she could have asked knowing we couldn't come".. so did she know you were away, or did she not know...

You do sound hard work

Akiram · 26/12/2011 17:00

Surely the fact you gave her a present is unrelated. I mean, if you knew she was going out for birthday drinks without, you wouldn't have held onto her present in protest would you? Because that would be off.
I can see that you are upset you weren't invited though, especially if she didn't know you were away. Are you normally invited out for her birthday? Or maybe she went out with a different circle of friends?

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