This is long and I may be being over sensitive.
We went to my parents' house today, where one of my brothers, his girlfriend and her 5 year old son have been for the past 2 days (they live in Latvia, she is Russian). When we arrived, at 11.30, mum was frazzled cooking dinner and looking after small (exclusively Russian speaking) child. Mum asks me to take over entertaining of 5 year old as she has been looking after him since 7.30; his mum and my brother are still in bed at this point. So my 11 year old son plays with the little boy and we help mum with bits and poeces and my elderly grandad. My brother and his girlfriend surface at about 12.30, and come down and plonk themselves in sitting room with drinks.
We get to dinner time, and there is a small table and main table (we are 10 altogether. I am happy to sit at small table with children (the 2 of them). However, my brother insists that his stepson sits at main table, and no other adult wants to sit at small table, so a space is squeezed in at main table for another brother, leaving my son and I essentially excluded from the meal, as they proceed to pull crackers etc, and forget to pass us any veg, gravy.
I asked at one point if perhaps MY son might like to pull a cracker with the others, and my youngest brother (the one with the small stepson) tells me to "Fuck right off, and stop bloody moaning!!!!!" He has drunk everything available by this point.
My oldest brother, my son's godfather, didn't bother to buy his only nephew (my son) a card, let alone even a token gift. After the meal, my brother's girlfriend went back off to bed, leaving her son downstairs, where I played with him whilst two of my brothers played football with my son, having been nagged to do so.
Sorry this was long and ranty, but these things, along with various other minor irritations have made me feel pretty pissed off with the whole experience.