To be upset on Christmas Day?

[NotaDisneyMum]

My DD is spending Christmas with her dad this year; we alternate years, and I'm fine with that (been enjoying some 'us' time with DP) but I've just spoken to DD on the phone and I asked her in a lighthearted way 'did Santa come?' to which she replied 'Dad told me that he doesn't exist'

Shes 11, so I know she doesn't believe - but I don't ever remember my parents 'telling' me - it was part of the fun of Christmas, pretending to believe

I know she'll play along for DSS when we 'do' Christmas next week - but I'm sad that her dad has taken that fun away, it seems a shame

at 4pm Last night Santa should have been in New Zealand !

she is 11 and we don't know that she didn't ask him and get an honest answer - I doubt he just came out and said it in a 'lets spoil her Christmas' stylee!

My son (nearly 7) found out Santa didn't exist last night.

Despite being very very careful with not letting slip, finding ways round questions raised by friends etc we completly messed up - DH fell over smuggling prezzies downstairs at midnight, almighty crash as DH and four large parcels crashed and unravelled - son came hurtling out of his room to the top of the stairs yelled "santa is really Dad" and laughed and laughed and laughed.
I'd been dreading him finding out, but actually its' been really good fun, he thinks it's all hilarious.

FGS she knows it's not real and you know she knows so I don't see the big deal at all. Differet story if she was 3 but she is 11!!! My 12 yr old pretends in front of the younger siblings but whn they are not around she doesn't. Why on earth would she?

There are far worse thngs a person can do than tell and ELEVEN yr old that there is no santa. Comes across to me that you just want an excuse to run your ex down.

Er excuse me, what's all this Santa doesn't exist nonsense?

Unless you k iw how it happened, I don't tho k you should be angry at him.

I have said that when my dc ask outright, I will answer them honestly.

Tbh, I don't think an 11yo still believes, I can't imagine my 9yo dd does.

We will have to agree to disagree then MMeReindor as I am 100 % certain my 9 and 11 yr olds still believe and funnily enough the eldest hasn't be destroyed by others as has been suggested by Bluddy. I really don't know why it is such a big deal to so many people that a child of 11 can still believe Really what harm is it doing you if they do ?

Iam sure by next year he won't but I am glad that he still does and Ihope ds2 contiues to do just as long!

zest - where, exactly, have I run my ex down?
I'm sad that DD has not had the chance to enjoy the 'game' the way that many children, and I did as a child - but I've not actually criticised him at all?