To be pissed off at DP? I know I am!

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DP has come down with a stomach bug. Three days ago I had it and I slept a while, came downstairs and from 4pm until 12:30am I was on my own with two DD's while he was in the pub playing poker with the boys.

As of 5am he's been ill. After being here with his eyes closed while DD's were opening their presents he disappeared upstairs. He said he might come down if he feels better but I should just tell them dad is ill. So tough basically.

DD's have already been exposed to it because me and DD1 had it the other day. AIBU to make him come downstairs and share this day with us, even if he doesn't eat or move much?

Sorry yabu

Let him sleep it off

Are you visiting family later? Could you take the girls to the pub for some lemonade? See the lights, get some fresh air

YABU, fgs, the man is ill, what is wrong with you?

No we're at home all day and I'm cooking dinner for us and our DD's. I feel very unreasonable since he bought me the most perfect gift and is usually an absolute gem to me. I've had no sleep, am grouchy and feeling a bit jealous about a few days ago I think. Not good for Christmas day! .

yabu - I had the flu last christmas - just about managed an hour downstairs until I nearly fainted and had to go back to bed for the rest of the day - sorry!

If he is ill, he is ill. Not much you can do about it. Let him go back to bed and rest for a while.

If he's sick he's sick

I understand that this is not now Christmas is supposed to be, I understand that he didn't do the right thing when you were sick but neither of those considerations means he should come downstairs and put on a happy face

Maybe after he's had a good sleep he'll feel better like you did and come down and play happy families

I'd rather that a sick person stay away from. E and keep their germs and I'll humor to themselves anyhow

Oh I don't think yabu at all. Seems bloody unfair to me, although not much you can do about it.

This is a major 'pennies in the bank' deposit for you OP. Next time you feel off colour, James Bond says home.

I've just been up to check on him and I feel stupid even posting this. He's really ill and he promised ge'd do all he can to come down later and see our DD's. It's not odten he's ill and it's not an over dramatised 'man flu'. He must be really sick to be in bed, especially when he knows how much this day means to DD1.

Feel like an arsehole now. Luckily vented it here and not to poor DP's face!

he'd and often.

You should be a bit embattassed by how childish you're being. Do you think he would purposefully miss Christmas?! He's probably quite upset about not being able to join you all and you should feel ashamed.

Oh, God, TSC. Was he ok?

DP hates Christmas but participates as the DD's and I love it. At first I thought it was an excuse but I geard gim in the bathroom and it's either a very very goid performance and he's upstairs chuckling or he really did catch it from me and is ill. I'd like to believe the former but he's a terrible liar.

*embarrassed

Zombie He would purposely avoid Christmas. He hates it. No idea why but the only eeason he even tolerates the day is for me and tge DD's. If he could get away with it he would pull a sickie but like I said he's a terrible liar. I'd also be upset and he agrees with me on this.

I'm sorry you had to suck it up when you were ill. YANBU to be annoyed, but practically nothing is to be gained by dragging him down from his bed. Let him be, treat him how you would have liked to be treated when you were ill and then when he is better have a chat about mutual respect and looking after each other in sickness and in health.

Three days ago I had it and I slept a while, came downstairs and from 4pm until 12:30am I was on my own with two DD's while he was in the pub playing poker with the boys. - is that when he is usually an absolute gem to me. ??

if playing poker is more important to him that helping at home when his wife is unwell then the most perfect gift is to keep you sweet

Does he gets his way every time - is that the case?

In that case I can see why you'd think he was putting it on!

No, definitely not. It was his last game where everyone would be together as two are emigrating and with Christmas coming up there probably won't be another meet up until February. All the others stayed out until 3 or 4 in the morning and he came home early for me. He bought me the gift weeks before as I saw it wrapped in the present pike.

Sure, I wish he'd helped me more and I was a but jealous if him having a good time while I was ill and still busy at home.

Pike? Pile!

Stupid phone. Stupid fat fingers. Stupid insomnia.

FFS I would be livid if my DP had gone out playing poker while I was ill, what a cock. So YANBU. My ex used to be like that, he was allowed to do what he wanted if I was sick (God help me if I complained) but he had to rest when he was ill.

If you do let him rest now make sure he makes up it to you.

He will. I'll leave him sleep until he wakes on his own but he'll have to help me a little. I have to make an entire Christmas dinner, look after two DD's all while having not slept in 30 hours and still being rather ill. He's not a bad guy, he'll help; might have a sour face for a bit!

How did your day go? Did he surface? Regardless, I hope you had a good day

I was in bed all day yesterday with a stomach bug, Spent an hour with the kids watching them open their presents, DH had to do everything, There is nothing worse than missing out on xmas day with your kids but I physically couldn't get up.

He came down and we spent the day together. Was not a great day as I was ill too and so no dinner, just bubble and squeak last night. Feel much better today but still a bit dodgy. He's quite happy to have missed out but is making it up to us all, bless him.