to wish my mum would admit my ds's aren't perfect?

[harassedandherbug]

Just sort of had words with my mum, she drives me nuts when it comes to my ds's!

Background: I have two ds's with xh aged 22 & 20. The divorce was awful, but 10 years ago! I'm now happily married to dh and we have a dd and expecting ds any second. Literally!

Soo, ds1 went out with a couple of mates yesterday afternoon. He lives with his gf who's preg, and their 2yr old dd. Anyway, he got a bit carried away, rolled in about midnight, threw up on the floor, rolled in it then got on the sofa. Gf is understandably fuming, and so am I! The only reason he's just getting away with it is because it is unusual for him....

But my mum thinks its hilarious, normal and he's only 22!! I'm fuming that she's justifying such bad behavior, she's certainly changed her tune from when I was younger believe me. But its always the same. The boys can literally do no wrong, and she's trying the same thing with dd too. I'm a nanny too, its great and I love dgd to bits, but I really don't think she's doing any of the kids any favours.

Aibu?

YANBU, it is never in anyones interest to excuse bad behaviour. I can see why you are annoyed.

If it was a one off, on her part, it'd be fine but its constant. You literally can't say a bad word about them without her making excuses for them.

He's a bit old for you to be getting involved in his relationships isn't he?

I think it's lovely she's so blinded by her love for him that he can do no wrong, much better than the alternative and she's constantly going on about him.

It's what GP should be like, pass no judgements and always be on your side

I think its gp law to be like this I know your Gd is young but i think you will be the same , I used to go to my nanas if i had a night out and not go home cos my mum would TUT @me nana used to put me to bed with a bucket , although your NBU to think that your son was a bit of a plonker