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to have told my brother he can't come to see us and and the rest of the family on christmas day

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notquitenormal · 24/12/2011 19:51

I'm doing dinner for 11 tomorrow. Us three, my sisters, their dps, my nephews, step dad and bil. My brother is having dinner with his girlfriend's family.

My brother just phoned to see when we were picking him up to visit.

His girlfriend had a baby YESTERDAY! They only brought him home today. I know he wants to show the baby off...but FFS!

I'd love to see him...but who wants to sit with 11 of the in-laws two days after giving birth?

I told him no...now I feel like a right cow.

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notquitenormal · 24/12/2011 20:05

No they live with gf's parents. We'd need to pick them up after our dinner and take them back (along with everyone else).

I suggested boxing day as we're all at my mums...but they have other plans.

DP says he'll do it. I still think it's mad.

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ginmakesitallok · 24/12/2011 20:05

Evening after I came home with DD1 I was in tescos.... Like others I'm a bit Hmm that you aren't all jumping at the chance to meet your new nephew! Pay for a taxi for him - tis the season of goodwill after all!

BluddyMoFo · 24/12/2011 20:06

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Appuskidu · 24/12/2011 20:08

I'd say "sorry, I'll be drunk;)"

Where do people who don't drive get off demanding lifts from those who do! Get a bloody cab.

BluddyMoFo · 24/12/2011 20:10

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notquitenormal · 24/12/2011 20:12

Ahh...bluddymofo, now I do feel like a cow!

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HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 24/12/2011 20:12

I don't think it's your place to decide whether she is ready willing or able to go out. The only opinion that counts here is hers. No, you may not leave your home, you have just had a baby. ??? I don't think you get to decide that.

That said, you are under no obligation to be taxi for your whole family. If you don't want to ferry people about - don't.

So if you're saying no because you have decided she isn't ready to go out - YABU

If you are saying no because you are pig sick of being a taxi - YANBU

BluddyMoFo · 24/12/2011 20:16

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BigHairyGruffalo · 24/12/2011 21:01

One thought, if it is their first baby and don't drive, do they have a car seat?

redwineformethanks · 24/12/2011 21:46

Go and pick them up, would be nice to include them

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notquitenormal · 24/12/2011 22:03

Well, we have sorted it...they're coming. Bil can drive and is pitching in. Dh has gone to my cousins to borrow a car seat because they dont have one after all (glad I asked, they thought he could use ds's...who is nearly 4)

Thinking about it, I was ok on day 2. It was day 5 to, errr, 600 I felt like crap. At least it gets most of the intros done in one go.

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skybluepearl · 24/12/2011 22:22

i think you should text GF and say that if she is too exhausted, then you can see her another time.

thepeoplesprincess · 24/12/2011 22:29

I think YABU. Plenty of new mothers like the fussing and showing-off. I know I did.

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