i know i'm being silly, but i can't help it.

[lostdeb]

Every year my Sister and Brother in law get naff gifts for my Children. I know it's the thought that counts, but there is seriously no thought involved. We thought we'd help then along by dropping hints about what the Children like the last time we saw them. I've had a sneaky peek at the gifts. (purely to stop me ranting and raving on Christmas day, and i'm a nosy moo) They've got my Dd a Disney Princess book, ok, except she's 8 in a couple of weeks. The gift that really annoys me is, they've got my DS a bubble gun. The kind of thing we buy on holiday with their pocket money. Rant over. xxx

Be grateful they buy anything, none of dps siblings do but crikey did they flip when we stopped buying for there children.

I do feel your pain though, my grandads the same, I'd rather he didn't bother!

Do they have children? Maybe they have no idea what children like and need.

I know you dropped hints, but maybe they are short of cash?

I know it might be annoying, but I think you should toughen up and not get yourself worked up about it.

YABabitU

Ohh can I join in? (and in spirit of Xmas yanbu ) .. My mum has bought dd (3) a toy piano as an extra present. I am 8 1/2 months pregnant so just done a big pre baby / Xmas clean up (particularly as know dd getting a dolls house) . Wtf she thought I would a noisy or bulky fuckinf piano (ESP when she has got dd loads of other stuff incl the one thing dd really wants ) I don't know.

I can't fault her generosity but I am tempted to eBay it.. Unless your kids want it

yabu bubble guns are awesome

That's bloody unreasonable Jo if they flip at you

YABU, is 8 really too old for disney princess, I'm sure I still liked disney at that age and your DS will probably like the bubble gun even if you don't, make it a bathtime toy until the summer when he can use it outdoors.

They don't have Children, but they have Children on his side of the family, which they have no trouble telling us what they like. They definately have money, as they've just bought a 3d tv. It hurts, as they don't make an effort. Our Boy is 9, and Autistic, but they've never shown an interest in what he likes. When we we're going through the diagnosis with him, they were more bothered in telling us about the latest trip to Disney land, than asking about him. I realise i sound jealous, but i'm not. We are very blessed with what we have. xxx

bubble guns are great, but we have 2 under the sink already, which my Boy can only use for a few minutes before he get's frustrated because the bubbles don't come out quick enough. xxx

Whether they 'have money' or not is not the issue - they could be minted and buy you a 2p sweet - is up to them how they spend thier money. Be grateful they buy you anything. Bubble guns are fab!

It's the thought that counts, I think YABU

Also if people don't have children they don't always take a great interest in other peoples children so they probably won't think to ask after your kids.

yabu bubble guns are the shit

YANBU. If they cared they would ask about what the DC would like. I would try even with friends' kids. Noone likes to feel their DC are not cared for my close family members.

YABVU

YABU

I always find it hard to buy for other peoples kids, i dont have any yet (pregnant with my first) and although it may seem really easy to you I can assure you it isnt. With my Godchildren their mother has to be really specific with me with what to get...partly because i dont want to waste my money either.

I agree with do

God, I grew having naff presents from relatives, it's part of growing up and it's extremely controlling to try and dictate what others buy your children. I am stunned at some of the posts on MN about this issue.

Smile, nod and accept gifts graciously.

I always check to see what's in the presents from the inlaws for my DCs - lucky I did this year, DH is, as we speak, on an emergency battery run because although I bought enough for everything Santa is bringing plus a few over, SiL has bought one of the boys a giant fucking huge noisy plastic remote control truck that needs ten batteries including those bloody 9v square ones... sighhhhhhh

A teeny bit unreasonable. But I'm sure you will have got your DCs nice stuff

YABU at least they thought of the children and they bought them something. My dh's siblings never ever buy birthday or christmas presents for our 3 and we send them a cheque each every birthday and christmas. We live overseas otherwise I would go and buy a present and take it to them.

I will always make the effort with the kids because they are lovely and deserve a little something from us

If they don't like their Christmas presents, it'll be a good lesson in pretending to be grateful for unwanted gifts that will last them throughout their lives. More people could do with the practice.

plant quite!

YABU, mostly because I'm sick of people pissing and moaning on here about what presents they got/didn't get, it's not even Christmas day yet!

Unless your best friend, parents and partner all give you a big bag full to the brim with dogshit, you are an ungrateful wretch.

You/your children are not the centre of everyone's universe.

YABU and I agree entirely with plant being gracious and saying thank you even if you don't get what you want is a good lesson to learn and one you clearly missed OP.

YABU you're very lucky to have them around and buying any kind of present for your dcs.

My SIL ruined my wedding day and my brother just stood by and let her. I'd love a nice brother and SIL, but sadly it will never be