to find it hard to be ^nice^ online

[southeastastra]

lots of people seem to manage it

it brings out the cynical side of me not seeing other people's faces in conversation though

I am much nicer on here than in RL. On here I type all sorts, re read it, think - nah - and then delete it. In RL I just say it, or my face does. I was blessed with a face that says exactly what I am thinking.

I'm nicer online, less sharp and bitchy.

I'm not a fast enough typer for that, so I (mostly) stop and think, try and put myself in the op's situation and try and give some honest advice. Makes me boring I suppose

I think it's really sad to be nicer in real life than online, just sort of shows you as a bit spineless tbh (not saying you are personally, OP, I don't know you at all).

I'm probably nicer on here because I have time to think and don't put my foot in it as often.

I keep on trying to rememember that short 1-2 liners on an iPad come out even terser in pure text than they would spoken.

But with you OP, some threads make my cynicism filter hit overload by page 1.

lol don't think im spineless

I just think i am too lazy to type lots of "nice" padding to soften the fact i am telling the person they are a twunt.

And I just realised I have no idea if I am "nice" in r/l or not nobody has taken a swing at me, or hurled obscenities this year, so I can't be that bad I don't think, and if they talk about me behind my back, nobody has taken it upon themself to tell me so. I shall take this as a good sign

I swing between being utterly spineless and too nice online to blurting something out and frankly wondering why later when I've pissed a few people off.

I recently saw someone on here I know to be really nice say something really really shit to an OP unnecessarily so. It had me I think you get caught up in the flow occasionally.

I think I am funnier in RL

I'm a lazy typer so come across as a bit blunt on here I think. In RL I love talking ans will witter on for hours. I also have foot-in-mouth syndrome that makes me say all sorts that I wouldn't on here.

I was a bit cutting to somebody yesterday online i didnt mean to be and im never that straightforward usually but its easier if somebody annoys you to say something and not regret it much , you have to think there is real people behind the screen and some are cut out for harshness and can bite where as others are more sensitive and do take things to heart , Me i dont care i can handle it

Someone said she doesn't meet people in RL who care about BF v FF, or benefit scroungers!!!

Totally disagree - topics best not to go near imo.

I was a 'failed' breastfeeder and still have feelings of disappointment when the subject comes up - and that was 30 years ago!!

And the amount of tax we pay, whilst trying to save for retirement, and the scruffs who are hanging around the town centre. Obviously not in work. Grrrrrr.

Many posts are entirely influenced by the poster's own experiences/take on life. Certainly mine are. Something you have to keep in mind when reading them.

I'm much wittier, ascerbic and more erudite online than in RL.

On the other hand, my tits are better in RL.

Swings and roundabouts.

I a model of tact irl, online I'm too honest.
But I wonder, if you don't want anonymous honesty online, what do you want?

I don't think anyone is anything else - they just care less online. I am where my mood takes me online and in rl. I can be ultimately sympathetic but I can also not give a teeny tiny twat - depends on the subject and time of day.

I agree with Zombi.

My fave MN are Worra and Fabby

I think you are nice.

I think only someone who is nice would worry that perhaps they aren't! Horrible people don't tend to care

I hope I am nice. I try to treat people how I would want them to treat me. And that goes for online too. I try not to forget that even though I can't see them, they are there and can be hurt if I am cruel.

Me too. I'm constantly getting into trouble on other forums for not pussyfooting around and telling it like it is. I'm very nice in RL though, too bloody nice really